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Ns reactions to world events?
Wildflower:
Hi Portia,
Yeah, my dad's one real sick puppy, but now that I know about NPD, it's so much easier to deal with him because he's so obviously sick - nothing to do with me at all. Before knowing about NPD, though, I used to take those accusations to heart. His first response has always nagged at me, though, and I hadn't thought about him dumping his pain on me by making it my problem. I think I'll have to mull that one over a bit.
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Sometimes it's the little things that gnaw away at us and do the most harm, so I hope you do share your story.
Wildflower
seeker:
Fascinating subject--pretty illuminating.
Jacmac, the Jew-hating weirdo is just a classic I-get-to-dish-it-out kind of N. Pretty anti-social in the DSM textbook sense of the word. My NSIL is like this in a much milder form with the verbal abuse (not physical violence). Sheesh. I would have run for the hills listening to that story :shock: Wildflower, congratulations on "beating the rap" (kidding!! :D ) Aren't Ns just incredible?!!!
How about a lighter historical reference?
Have you heard of the Winchester Mystery House in California? It's a very funky Victorian built by a widow/heiress of Winchester Rifle fame. She was told by spirits of all the people killed by Winchester to build this house. It is quirky to say the least. She used to spy on her servants and no one was allowed to visit. Even President Theodore Roosevelt was told to use the servants entrance (he left, instead). She bought whole bolts of fabric so no one could buy the same fabric she had (even though she never went out and no one came over). Held seances every night. Slept in a different bedroom every night so the spirits couldn't find her and kill her....
So when the tour guide was explaining the damage the 1906 earthquake did to the house, I kept waiting for the obvious. I wasn't disappointed. She had been trapped in her bedroom for hours by fallen beams and stuck doors. The earthquake happened because the spirits were unhappy with the progress she was making on the house. :roll: It was looking too good, so she left the damage as it was and turned to a different wing of the house to work on.
One N in my life still hasn't recovered from Watergate. Gets really tense and clenches his teeth over the fact his guy was smeared. Can't laugh at parodies about it or anything. Of course, he deflects with Monicagate. As for me, I think both Nixon and Clinton were rather vile in their own unique ways. But that's me being disloyal again but not agreeing.
:wink: Seeker
Anonymous:
Hi guys. Thanks for the inquiries. You guys are so sweet :) . I work close to the Ground Zero sight, and at time worked within the buildings, but wasn't in the building at the time. Wildflower, can you imagine? You and I have probably passed each other by and didn't know it.
Anyway, the day of I took an unusually early assignment, usually I start at 10:00 a.m. but went in to work on that day for 9:00 a.m. I got off the train just in time to see the second plane strike the building. But our vantage point was at enough of a distance that we thought it was like a news copter or something.
Anyway the soot thing. I went into work like nothing was wrong. New Yorkers can jump over a dead body and thing nothing of it, we're dissenticized to violence, just as long as we're not late for work. Now that's unacceptable. I was told, somethings going on in Washington, too. No work today. So I thought to myself, great, I'll go the gym. On my way out, they were evacuating the Court House to the cellar. I have HUGE control issues, and being locked into a cellar is a no, no for me.
I said to myself, literally, "You see how people panic for no reason." I was so calm and cool and impressed with myself. Well, the people were yelling and running the opposite direction of where I was walking. I was actually walking, Duh! in the direction of the WTC, which was about five minutes away. Seconds later, the sky darkened.
It was like a scene out of some Sci-Fi movies. That's when the first WTC building fell. That's why I was covered with soot. I ended up walking home.
Took me about three hours. But I walk over the bridge all the time, so that wasn't the horrible part. But you know what, I don't know what was in that soot, but I was sick for days after. Maybe post traumatic shock?
Anyway the N I was invovled with at the time NEVER asked how I was. NEVER called. And it's funny ,because his mother, who enabled and coddled him to no end, actually called me to tell me thank God, my son wasn't working ( I got rid of him because he WOULDN'T work); never asked after me as well. So I said Well, he's an able bodied young man, why doesn't he go down and join the rescue effort, it's not like he's doing anything. Needless to say, I never heard from her again.
As for the 13 year old juvenile delinquent turned N, he is very abusive to his son -- always trying to make him into a "man", which is heart breaking because the son is really passive by nature and what he's doing is only making him even more sensitive. But of course doesn't see it.
He's a true Archie Bunker. Don't like nobody! And of course, everyone is out to make a quick buck, everyone is plotting and planning. No one has any good motives, and I'm such a niave "woman" to believe there's good in the world, God bless my little soul.
Jacmac, as guest:
DRATS!!! Stupid computer! That's me above, Jac mac
Wildflower:
Hi Jacmac,
Glad to hear you made it through okay!
--- Quote ---I said Well, he's an able bodied young man, why doesn't he go down and join the rescue effort, it's not like he's doing anything. Needless to say, I never heard from her again.
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:lol: Nice move! I'll have to remember that one.
Very sad about the son of the N. :( I hope the kiddo has some good friends around him. Maybe someday in the future more people will know about the crippling effects of having N parents and it'll be considered the kind of child abuse that brings in the social workers.
Wildflower
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