Another way to look at detachment

[debkor]

Hey Sea,

Ya I found it really interesting and I'm trying to think of memories and how I start my patterns.  I can Identify now that I am definitely a Visual person/Learner.

I'm knocking myself out trying to put the sensory patterns together when it was anger/peace/ whatever.
I'm getting all confused.

Now that I am conscious that I have patterns and the ones I seemed to use when I was not.
With my ex-n I think they went something like this.

visual
Audio
Kin

but I am confused with why I acted as I did (what was I thinking) what was my pattern.
So, I come up with this. Maybe because I'm a visual person first it was difficult for me to feel and hear without seeing?
I needed to see and if he hid things I felt almost blind? I don't know.  Is it my way of processing things?  It was my unconscious pattern that kept me from detaching way before I did (cause nothing to see) could hear, could feel but couldn't see it.  When I finally saw the picture (I was able to detact) still feel it but not want to hang on to it?
Then I was able to Learn (visual learning)  I don't know I'm so confused if that was really it. It does make sense to me though.  And it seems that know I know my pattern I can change and run whatever I want like the post states. I'm aware now. 
I am one that does always say.  Here look at this or Can I see it, or can you see what I'm doing, can you see what I mean. Can you see what I'm saying. Can't you see what you are doing, Can't you see what's going on. Picture this, Picture that.
So yes I think I am a very visual person/learner

Interesting eh!

Love Deb

Love Debbie

[debkor]

Hmm wonder if my T new this about me.  Now that I'm thinking back he use to say Deb, picture this as a Movie.
You had your beginning, your middle and how do you want this film to end.  Wonder if this was a coincidence or if he could tell I was visual.   Funny thing is that my exn was never in the ending.

Love Deb

[Gaining Strength]

I hear you CB.  I know that I have longed to have a parent to go to for advice.  It is so painful that my mother has nothing to offer.  I suspect that the most valuable thing you can do is offer advice as a gift to be taken or not without offense.  I bet you would have given anything to have a mother who cared enough and had valuable enough insight to be of value. - GS