Hey everyone,
Just wanting to let ya'll know that I was forced to use my new skills of defense and blocking the controlling and emotional/verbal abuse this morning with my N, and it worked! And I did it with dignity and control! In fact, I've had to use it several times this week as he has been trying to pick a fight and mess with my mind emotionally all week, but this morning he crossed the line and I had enough, so I called him out on his pouting and silent treatment, and ETC.
He was shocked and stupified to say the least and I was finally proud to have stood up to him and maintained the control needed so as not to make a huge fight out of nothing. I was able to deflect every manuever of his to bring me down, and tell him he was full of crap for trying to use these methods to manipulate me. He didn't know what to say, after about 50 different maneuvers (I kid you not---50!!)
I knew what was going on finally between reading Emotional Blackmail and Controlling People this week, I felt I was ready to be assertive and strong! I am not yet ready to make my move to get out, but I am within months, I need to hang in there and not let him have it for a bit longer, so I had to bite my tongue and choose my words correctly, but I DID IT! I am proud of me, finally, I am making a difference and I am on my way out! I won't go quietly, but I will go with my dignity!
I do know he will think twice before trying that for a while, and it should be quiet for a bit while I set up my safety net I will need before I split. Wooohoooo!
Namaste....and May The Force Be With ALL OF YOU!!!!
Sunny