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WRITE

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I'm supposed to be working
« on: March 01, 2007, 06:37:17 PM »
why on earth do I do this so often- get distracted and not do what I mean to be doing.

Especially with admin tasks or stuff I don't enjoy...

I know we have done this before but any tips on motivating myself and staying focussed????

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Re: I'm supposed to be working
« Reply #1 on: March 01, 2007, 06:53:30 PM »
wellllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllllll

Hit youself over the head with a coffee pot and scream "Get to work!"

Tell yourself, insist upon it, that work will take your mind off your problems!

(I am waiting for the Y&R to end before I get to work--I work at home!)


Get the 'don't enjoy' stuff over when you are drunk and don't know what you are doing"then do the 'I enjoy' work when sober!


---iin the end, when it is done, you will feel that you have accomplished something--------that is a good feeling!

Izzy---now get to work!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Re: I'm supposed to be working
« Reply #2 on: March 01, 2007, 07:06:53 PM »
stolen from the internet:

Four Steps to Defeat Procrastination

Do It Now
W. Clement Stone, who built an insurance empire worth hundreds of millions dollars, would make all his employees recite the phrase, "Do it now!" again and again at the start of each workday. Whenever you feel the tendency towards laziness taking over and you remember something you should be doing, stop and say out loud, "Do it now! Do it now! Do it now!"

Replace "Have To" With "Want To"
First, thinking that you absolutely have to do something is a major reason for procrastination. When you tell yourself that you have to do something, you're implying that you're being forced to do it, so you'll automatically feel a sense of resentment and rebellion. Procrastination kicks in as a defense mechanism to keep you away from this pain. If the task you are putting off has a real deadline, then when the deadline gets very close, the sense of pain associated with the task becomes overridden by the much greater sense of pain if you don't get started immediately.

The solution to this first mental block is to realize and accept that you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Even though there may be serious consequences, you are always free to choose. No one is forcing you to run your business the way you do. All the decisions you've made along the way have brought you to where you are today. If you don't like where you've ended up, you're free to start making different decisions, and new results will follow. Also be aware that you don't procrastinate in every area of your life. Even the worst procrastinators have areas where they never procrastinate. Perhaps you never miss your favorite TV show, or you always manage to check your favorite online forums each day. In each situation the freedom of choice is yours. So if you're putting off starting that new project you feel you "have to" do this year, realize that you're choosing to do it of your own free will. Procrastination becomes less likely on tasks that you openly and freely choose to undertake.



Replace "Finish It" With "Begin It"
Secondly, thinking of a task as one big whole that you have to complete will virtually ensure that you put it off. When you focus on the idea of finishing a task where you can't even clearly envision all the steps that will lead to completion, you create a feeling of overwhelm. You then associate this painful feeling to the task and delay as long as possible. If you say to yourself, "I've got to do my taxes today," or "I must complete this report," you're very likely to feel overwhelmed and put the task off.

The solution is to think of starting one small piece of the task instead of mentally feeling that you must finish the whole thing. Replace, "How am I going to finish this?" with "What small step can I start on right now?" If you simply start a task enough times, you will eventually finish it. If one of the projects you want to complete is to clean out your garage, thinking that you have to finish this big project in one fell swoop can make you feel overwhelmed, and you'll put it off. Ask yourself how you can get started on just one small part of the project. For example, go to your garage with a notepad, and simply write down a few ideas for quick 10-minute tasks you could do to make a dent in the piles of junk. Maybe move one or two obvious pieces of junk to the trash can while you're there. Don't worry about finishing anything significant. Just focus on what you can do right now. If you do this enough times, you'll eventually be starting on the final piece of the task, and that will lead to finishing.



Replace Perfectionism With Permission To Be Human
A third type of erroneous thinking that leads to procrastination is perfectionism. Thinking that you must do the job perfectly the first try will likely prevent you from ever getting started. Believing that you must do something perfectly is a recipe for stress, and you'll associate that stress with the task and thus condition yourself to avoid it. You then end up putting the task off to the last possible minute, so that you finally have a way out of this trap. Now there isn't enough time to do the job perfectly, so you're off the hook because you can tell yourself that you could have been perfect if you only had more time. But if you have no specific deadline for a task, perfectionism can cause you to delay indefinitely. If you've never even started that project you always wanted to do really well, could perfectionism be holding you back?

The solution to perfectionism is to give yourself permission to be human. Have you ever used a piece of software that you consider to be perfect in every way? I doubt it. Realize that an imperfect job completed today is always superior to the perfect job delayed indefinitely. Perfectionism is also closely connected to thinking of the task as one big whole. Replace that one big perfectly completed task in your mind with one small imperfect first step. Your first draft can be very, very rough. You are always free to revise it again and again. For example, if you want to write a 5000-word article, feel free to let your first draft be only 100 words if it helps you get started. That's less than the length of this paragraph.


WRITE

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Re: I'm supposed to be working
« Reply #3 on: March 04, 2007, 04:31:36 PM »
well I am doing it again, daydreaming on the computer, not getting on with work prep for the week.

I have always daydreamed all my life.

Hit youself over the head with a coffee pot and scream "Get to work!"

okay, going to try this strategy first  :)

( I may be some time...)

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Re: I'm supposed to be working
« Reply #4 on: March 04, 2007, 07:35:51 PM »
I got the coolest little coffeepot once when I was in Nawleans...
I miss that coffeepot.
It's in the basement somewhere.

Little white enamel thingie, with another thingie for putting the coffee in, and then you pour...

I wanna field trip.

I want to go to New Orleans.

Daydream????

 :D Write, you are so functional it's scary. I'm glad you take breaks!

Hops
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Re: I'm supposed to be working
« Reply #5 on: March 04, 2007, 08:01:44 PM »
I went two weeks ago and had a ball.  I took my baby boy to Cafe Du Monde and ate beignets til I popped and we bought pralines - he only ate around the nuts and so I had FIVE.  And we caught beads and toys galore at the wild and wooly parades.  He loved "the party street" in the French quarter.  Boy if his father could see him now - My boy loved the "party street" which is where his father kept a drinking, I mean, legal office for several years. (Until poverty forced him to sober up for a while.) 

Yeah Hops Nawleans is quite a place if you can stand the smell. And I can for a day or two.