Author Topic: Labeling  (Read 2981 times)

Overcomer

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Re: Labeling
« Reply #15 on: March 08, 2007, 07:35:24 AM »
Well I am a tall lady.  5  10  I have been called an Amazon.  I cannot cross my legs under a table.  I have also been called big.  A long tall drink of water.  But my mom has called me ugly on the inside and outside, a bull in a china closet, and she has insinuated a whole lot more.  Guilt was a constant companion for most of my life, but not now!
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dandylife

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Re: Labeling
« Reply #16 on: March 08, 2007, 08:56:57 AM »
If I remember the post being discussed, I believe the person labeled the behavior, not the person.

Sometimes not a big distinction, but I agree - people should not be labeled. But to describe something adequately, and because our language doesn't always have perfect words or descriptions I think we are limited to labels (sometimes).

Compassion is key I think. If you have compassion for someone, you are less likely to be cruel in your description.

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debkor

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Re: Labeling
« Reply #17 on: March 08, 2007, 01:28:49 PM »
The problem with labels is they are merely shells that contain assumptions. When we are taken in by a label, we are taken in by opinions and beliefs. That is, we willingly accept statements without evidence of their validity.


This is a tuff one for me narcissist in this post.  I understand that people can assume someone may be a(narcissist) we see it all the time on here.  I think my son,husband,mother, father, dr. lawyer,Indian chief may be a narcissist.  They are going by description. I see them searching before they put a label on.  They do not want to just assume. They want to validate their evidence. 

So when I use the word narcissist and apply it to a person it is not because I am assuming they are.  It is because I have evidence. It’s not my opinion or belief it’s a (fact).  So yes I label.


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