Voicelessness and Emotional Survival > Voicelessness and Emotional Survival Message Board

hello and have a great weekend everyone

<< < (2/3) > >>

Sally:
Pandora: So sorry you had to see him for real, but it is always the best way, it makes it so much easier that way.  And good for you for being sure enough to know that what he did in marriage is what you will see in divorce...only worse, cause now he will know that you know the game is up, and it wasn't about you, it was all about him.  

Take it one day at a time. You are a strong, smart woman. I admire your courage.  Stay close to all of the people here who care for you, and will support you.  Hugs. Sally

Anonymous:
Hi Pandora,
I am so relieved that you will finally be free of him... Eventually, life will be good again.  I am sure that in the mean time, there will be tough times.  But I am glad you are talking to friends and you have such clarity and resolve!
I have been reading your posts, and I have been able to relate in some ways.  My N has not had an affair (that I know of).  But the language and the patterns are similar.  I'm still in the confusion about how to resolve this, but I wanted you to know that your story has helped me to detect subtle patterns and unhealthy behaviors in my situation.  Thank you for your honesty.
Congratulations again on freeing yourself.  Do continue to take care of you!
Peace! sjkravill

Anonymous:
good luck Pandora, you know you need to get this deceitful guy out of your life to be happy.

I am going out of town with friends for the weekend and trying to make extra efforts to meet friends for dinner, etc. It is helping me to feel supported. I hope that all of you can find similar support close by!


I think it makes all the difference to have some 'together' affirming friends, and I've posted about this before, but I avoid negative people in life now, can't cope with them. The quality of friendships is really important.

I haven't told old friends and family about our split- I don't need to deal with their emotions/reactions right now. We've split before and I found it draining all the pressure to go back and try again, and no one really knew what he was really like.

Take care of yourself.

write:
that was me, write

lynn:
Hi Pandora,

Clarity feels wonderful doesn't it?  When the things which were so confusing suddenly reveal themselves in a clear way?  (You discover that you are not crazy after all!!)  And in a moment, things make sense.  

Keep a journal.  Write down how you feel in this special moment.

I am a few weeks ahead of you in a very similar situation.  My input is to stay strong. Even after the moments of clarity, your emotions go up and down.  It helps me to go back and read my journal.

lynn

Navigation

[0] Message Index

[#] Next page

[*] Previous page