It seems to me as though we are revisiting the issue of the Bad Mommy Taboo, here.
http://www.voicelessness.com/disc3//index.php?topic=3876.0I had a bad mother. I had a LOUSY mother. She was abusive, self-centered, scheming, manipulative, vicious, vindictive.
And do you know what? sick and sad as that fact is, I am doing so much better, knowing and admitting it, than I ever did during all the warped and desperate and twisted years I spent trying to 'make her love me' and wondering why she didn't.
Trying to win the love of MY OWN MOTHER?????
She didn't love because she couldn't. Worse still, she DIDN'T WANT TO.
She was a lousy mother.
Mere fertility does not a mother make, in any sense other than biological, and mere biological parenthood is not enough.
Here are a few links about Waneta Hoyt, who deliberately suffocated five of her young children and managed to pass it off as SIDS... fortunately, there is no statute of limitations on murder.
Just to make it very, very clear: she suffocated one, then got pregnant with the next one, then suffocated that one, then got pregnant with the next one. And every single pregnancy was deliberate. And she stayed married to the same man and made a stable home for the one child she didn't murder - one that she'd adopted, who was old enough that he didn't cry, which is apparently the thing that saved his life.
It could be argued that she was a good mother to the one she didn't murder, I suppose...
http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?sec=health&res=990CE1D9113DF932A25757C0A963958260http://law.jrank.org/pages/3680/Waneta-Hoyt-Trial-1995.html