Stress re N-related physical problems

[isittoolate]

Hi

I had such severe pains in my upper arms it was difficult doing anything --all gone now

I am still treating stress related excema on my arms and legs.

My startle reflex has really slowed down.

I still look over my shoulder, the hypervigilance of having him sneak up on me when I go out-- after almost 5 years?

Anyone else have the physical problems from the stress os dealing with an N?
Izzy

[debkor]

Izzy,

Sure do.  I know some is my blood pressure and not sure of other aches and pains if it is stress related or just getting old.

I do get PTSD even when I don't know it.  Something may trigger it and I am aware. Other times I'm not conscious of it.

You basically know my story and sometimes I get uneasy, look over my shoulder feeling, where are my kids. Is he lurking and know what we are doing but we do not know where  he is? 

Sometimes *rarely now* I dream of it. 

But I don't think I will ever get to the point of saying *oh I'm just being silly* I think oh I am just being wise.

He is a very well planned *vengeful sneak* and that I will never forget or put my guard down.

I live life as I want but I still get some stress, uncomfortableness.

Did you ever wonder what you would do, feel if you happened to run into him?  I tried to think of this but my stress level goes way high then.



Love
Deb

[isittoolate]

Deb

Oh yes. I am still on HBPressure meds--that's where my diuretic comes in

Strange. We live about 1½ blocks apart and I never run into him at either of two banks we both use, the grocery store we both use--unless he has changed. and this is 5 years later.

If i were to run into him, I would say "Hello" and keep on going! Then I couldn't be accused of being impolite. (I say Hi to strangers.)

[debkor]

Izzy,

Sometimes I do some stupid things when I get nervous caught by surprise.
I know I would try to hide my fear.

I would probably stop and say hello as I talked out of my mind nonsense things so I would  make myself look more nuts then he was.
And I have a habit of saying, it's nice to see you, keep in touch.

Then I would drag myself to the car, smoke 1000 cigarette's have an anxiety attack and want to kick my own A** for saying anything. 
God I hope that don't happen cigarettes are so expensive these days.

Love
Deb

[Motherless]

First there was high-blood pressure, after my Dad died and I left taking care of my Nmother.

Then migraines, then hospitalization (me) with GERD when we sold the homestead and she went into assisted living.

The clincher was Shingles.

Got a lovely case of them on my head... first I thought I had gotten into poison ivy. Nope.
Came down with it when she was being transferred into yet another facility. That was the
culmination after we were told that the first place didn't want her anymore. Like I was going to have her
stay with me?????

All of the above can be caused by stress.

[isittoolate]

Oh Mother!!!!
shingles on your head?????????---- Must have been a a pain in the a*s

[isittoolate]

Hi CB

A Typical Answer from dealing with an N

All this will go away when the N is gone.

For the pains in my neck and shoulders, I knew it wasn't computer-related. It was different. I went to a chiropractor for 1½ years, paying cash, only to find that the pains disappeared after I left the N.

When I first saw a therapist (not my present one) and talked about stress, she immediately rubbed her upper arms, exactly where my pain had been.

So how true, from that commercial, that depression can hurt you physically and emotionally.

[Margo]

Hi

I had such severe pains in my upper arms it was difficult doing anything --all gone now

I am still treating stress related excema on my arms and legs.

My startle reflex has really slowed down.

I still look over my shoulder, the hypervigilance of having him sneak up on me when I go out-- after almost 5 years?

Anyone else have the physical problems from the stress os dealing with an N?
Izzy

I'm still having back and neck troubles but..... the vomiting and constant nausea have subsided.  This weekend I had symptoms, left arm aching, trouble breathing (again) and general cotton in the brain feelings after he made threats and I didn't know what he was going to do.  Again. 

I realized that I quietly put up with his being here so much because it's so hard to just function when he's angry and threatening me.  I told myself it was positive for the girls to see so much of their father but...... I knew why he was coming around so much.  Not to see them but to work on me.  I'm back in anxiety mode again and I really worry about what that stress is doing to me.  He showed up at 5:30 this morning and woke me out of a very deep sleep.  My startle reflexes are still working just fine.  Margo

[Overcomer]

Well I know I ache all the time and it is hard to walk in the morning.  I weigh more now than ever.  Many people I know are taking acai juice And mangosteen Juice to help with a myriad of ailments!

[towrite]

Hey, Izzy - h--- yeah, I can relate to the stress physical problems from dealing with an N!!  When I first moved back home after 16 yrs with this N, I was afraid to open my front door. Every noise made me jump like a cat. I developed an ulcer, couldn't concentrate when I was driving, couldn't sleep. I'd wake up at 4:30 a.m. and cry for two hours, shaking. I believe drs. do not know enough about the toll stress takes on our bodies.

Thanks for your message. I surely would like some instruction re the icons.

Kate