Kids will be Kids but what is wrong with Adults.

[debkor]

I'm so aggravated right now. 
I had an incident with my son last week.  He was playing at a neighbors house (school) and wrote something not very nice about his best friend.  It blew into the other neighbors yard.  She questioned the kids that he was playing with in which they told him it was my sons. A WEEK LATER!!! after she called  and went told everyone in the neighboo rd what my son wrote, I was finally informed by his best friends mother who didn't know it took place like myself until we heard it through the gapevine. His friends mother and myself took care of the problem.  He did not do anything with *harm* he was joking but did not, well somewhat, know it was really not a right thing to do.  He got punished for a day, had to apologize to his friend and her mother.  These two kids were friends since birth.
I had a talk with my son and told him he disrespected his friend and himself.  He was very ashamed and took full responsibility for his actions.  OK it was done!  They are still best of friends.  Me and his friends mother are still the best of friends and life went on. Kids having to be corrected for being kids.

I was annoyed with the neighbor who found it in the first place, went to everyone but me and his friends mother but I let it go.
TODAY!!!  I get a phone call that she is still calling people.  Saved the note and is showing everyone.  I lost it.
I marched my butt over to her house.  I told her to stop calling and showing everyone the note.  I had taken care of the problem along with his friends mother to back off of my KID.
I swear to God! Blood boiled in my veins. 
You know that calm ex look you get, I got that from her, she's not an N though or I don't know, I don't bother with her cause she's not all there.  She's a trouble maker.
She look at me and said, Oh I did not know it was our son?  YES SHE DID, SHE WAS TOLD IN THE BEGINING!!.

I feel like a bit of an asshole now cause I raised my voice and I don't like to to that outside but I was so MAD.

I loudly told her , Your a liar, you did know, you went to everyone except me about my son.  What are you trying to do.
SHUT, your mouth about my son. The problem is over and are you some kind of sicko keeping a NOTE SO YOU CAN HARASS MY SON!!  I told her, she's dealing with me now and that is something she does not want to do. KEEP HER MOUTH SHUT ABOUT MY KID.

Now I feel upset for being so loud.  I lost it.
 
Sorry just ranting.
Love
Deb

[Stormchild]

adults will be kids too, deb. many people don't grow up, they just grow old.

[debkor]

Storm,

Your right, I'm probably more upset that I went down to her level. 

Anyway how are your feet?  Do they feel any better yet?

Love
Deb

[poetprose]

Don't you just love those kinds of people

it is like they have no vision no life, and the only action they have is to be petty, and petty people are small people....

I swear there are some neghbors arround this area,  who if they could get away with it, would call the animal patrol to have the birds put to sleep simply because the birds wake them up in the morning.... lol  I'm serious!!   

they are so bored they have nothing better to do than to cause shit ......    I'm sorry that this woman interfered in something that was so close to your heart, so personal.......  and your* own buisness....    I'm sorry for your son as well, maybe he is a bigger person than the neighbor is )

[debkor]

CB,Poet and Storm,

Yes my son has learned a very valuable lesson here.  He now knows the town *big mouth* is the one who found what he wrote.  He is so embarrassed *and should be* but learned his lesson.  He does realize that something he thought was funny has caused alot of problems.  He did his time and apologies and is truly sorry.  Yet I got worried because he looked very, very sad and when I asked are you ok he said Now everyone hates me.  I explained to him no one hates him and he is just a kid, that kids make mistakes and that is what exactly he did. You learn by your mistakes, as you have.  No big deal.

He saw me go out to take care of business when it was out of control and I explained to him that is my job, I'm the adult, she's the adult and making things way bigger then she should so I think he feels a little better now.
I told him I would not let her talk about him or devalue him that is why he has a mom.
Not that he got it.  He has no clue what devalue means.

Anyway he's out playing now so I hope it passed.
I told him if she tries to speak to him to tell her she has to speak to his mom.

So it's a nice day and I'm going to enjoy it now.  Cleaning lol.
 

Love
Deb

[debkor]

CB,

Thank you so much. 

I'm so glad you had a good day.  I personally love the city and would of liked my children to grow up there rather then the country.  I loved the city, still do.  There was always so much more to do.  So many different people and cultures.  I think in this manner I was at more of an advantage then they were. I speak often about my living/growing up in the city the friendships/bonding I had and things that I hold dear and near to my heart that had to do very much with shaping me as and adult and why I am the way I am today.
My parents were not the only ones who were important in the way I was growing.  Of course they taught me my morales and how to respect people and myself but my friends were, as important.  They were a very big part of my life and although we have moved separate ways they will always be a part of me.

I wish this for your children and yourself.  I wish you many of new friendships all kinds.  Even though your kids are older and you did not grow up in the city you do now and there are so many things open to you. You will adjust and find good friends, so will your children. 

Pretty soon you will be talking the lingo!!

Heh, I haven't lived in the city in 16 years but I still have a thick accent, sugar said like this suga, water,wader.

I'm excited for you and your new adventures!!

Oh and great news on your new jobs!!! Good wishes to you and your family from my family.


Love
Deb