Eating Disorders, Lap Band Surgery, etc.

[Hops guest]

Of course it's not bad to dream of looking better, OC. ((((OC))))))

But I think if you totally change the emphasis AWAY from the superficial "looks" part, over to the HEALTHY and FIT and FEELING GREAT part...changing is easier.

Then it's all about how you feel inhabiting and loving your body because of how you feel, not how you LOOK. You're judging yourself looking in a mirror or through the eyes of other people.

I think if you start loving yourself, the rest will follow. You can surgically force your body to change. But listen to Ami...

I hope you'll do what's right for you. If you're not sure what that is, trust somebody.

love
Hops

[Doodle]

My apologies in advance if my reply does not fit in with the current path of discussion on this thread, but I have a comment to make and I'm at work so I don't have time to read (but I will later!).

My mom had lap-band surgery about 6 years ago and she has had nothing but problems.  She still throws up and has lost almost all of the enamel on her teeth, has been "conditioned" not to eat certain foods (so she eats a very poor diet) because she did not have health eating habits to begin with , and, in my opinion, is generally more depressed than she normally is since the surgery.  She lost about 90 pounds, but has gained most of it back.  No, she not only has the original shame of being over weight, but blames herself for the surgery failing and gaining the weight back.

I wish she'd never gotten it because it has probably taken years off her life.