Hi Michael, no need to duck and run, as if!
I had a look for the book you suggested, found some info:
From Barnes & Noble.com
From the Publisher
In this groundbreaking book, Daphne Rose Kingma shows women how to help men get in touch with their feelings and assists both genders in creating the connection they so desperately want.
From The Critics
Publishers Weekly
Not only are men no less emotional and in need of love and support than women, but, according to TV therapist Kingma, they are ``as oppressed by the male role as we have been by women's.'' Here she shows women how they can help the men they love to develop and express themselves. She contends that as a result of the women's liberation movement, men struggle to maintain macho identities by channeling their energies into work, sex, sports or other physical action. Along with a list of ``transformational attitudes'' and behaviors for women designed to help their men achieve a step-by-step emotional awakening, Kingma suggests 22 questions geared towards stimulating greater communication and intimacy between partners. Much of this is familiar self-help advice, and the book mainly serves to reinforce the arguments of the burgeoning men's movements. 35,000 first printing; $50,000 ad/promo; author tour. (June)
Seems a reasonable book to me, fwtiw.
About your words:
SEVERAL THOUGHTS HERE ABOUT DIFFERENCE BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN..
one is a book suggestion THE MEN WE NEVER KNEW by daphne rose kingma ...
i might get back to book later here..
but first now about the more aware of visual details that women tend to have...
what can happen then it is harder for women to choose the most important focus...
I agree, from personal experience. edit in: when the most important focus is blindingly obvious - like the fire escape.
but they tend to [without realizing it usually] focus on their own emotional bias as if that is the most important detail...
I can see your point and agree with it, in as much as women might feel they having all the feelings in a relationship! i.e. why do I have to do allll the feeeling here?!
men might realize to some degree that women are not likely to be honest about their own emotional bias
and that women can often outmaneuver them by being more intuitive too of a wider range of energy...
Is anyone likely to be 'honest' in a perfect way? It seems very difficult to me to know when you are being honest about your feelings (motivations?). I think it's possible that many women simply don't believe that men are different in the ways they are, and that somehow men are being different just to be 'difficult' or 'controlling'. You know, when a man tends to mull over a problem before talking about it - women choose to see that as the 'silent treatment' kind of thing. Oh yah. All sorts of misunderstandings. Women outmaneuvering men? Sometimes i guess it's intended, sometimes not. It depends on the woman and the man.
so kind of what i think kingma says in the book...men give up
Mmm, like our fathers did? Retreating into a cold confusion to remain 'manly'?
but feel like they are being asked as if they should join in this emotional playing field as a joy but tend not to want to coz it can be very hard to get a woman to recognize her own emotional biases....
Is it that hard? Really? i guess it depends on the woman, and the man doing the, er, help. 
once again women tend to believe that their focus of what is key and important is superior to men
when it is not necessarily as true as they would like to believe
Some women surely? You mean like the arguments that if women ran the world, we wouldn't have wars? or other exceptionally simplistic arguments like that?
and in the meantime some key point of truer consistency of needs
might be better perceived by men who tend to be in general more logiical and consistent...
In general i agree, in general it seems that men are more logical and consistent. Women are more lateral (literally, brain-wise) and flexible (not sure "consistent" is the best word for what men are, i think 'focused' is more to the point, 
).
What do you mean - consistency of needs?
THUS THE BATTLE OF THE SEXES MAYBE
AND FINALLY THIS...
MICHAEL DOES THE TRULY WISE THING
DUCKS AND RUNS :p
Portia looks up to see figure heading for the horizon: Michael, come back! I have a thread for you!
what did you say next?....
PORTIA,
ON THE ISSUE TOWARDS THE END ABOVE...
CONSISTENCY
some of the material of the psychic readings of edgar cayce
i feel have served me quite well in getting a better grip on a holistic metaphysics of life..
that is consistent
having to do with a perfect union of mind and heart thru the eternal principles of life
that comes when one becomes consistent in one's active thoughts and one's actions..
such a choice of conscious consistency
it the basis of salvation..
i.e. changing from one's past inconsistent emotions that persist till one is convicted of one's past sinful old habits
and accepts divine aid in being cleanse of one's old sinful past habit nature...
where those classid freudian id ego superego things like repression projection etc cloud the focus of the mind...
those old habits persist until one seeks true correction and perfection ...
they keep making one miss the mark of one's trul relationship to the whole of being...
but once one cleanses one's heart past and present work in perfect harmony
by submitting oneself to the higher laws of spiritual will...
NOW LET ME SEE HOW TO APPLY TO THIS HERE FOR YOU
TO HOW MEN TEND TO BE MORE CONSISTENT
AND I MIGHT ADD WOMEN ARE MORE PERSISTENT IN GENERAL...
WELL MAYBE NOT THE BEST POINT BUT IT SHOULD WORK... I HOPE
IN ECCLESIASTES 3RD CHAPTER
IT SAYS IN THE KING JAMES TRANSLATION
11 ¶He hath made every thing beautiful in his time: also he hath set the world in their heart, so that no man can find out the work that God maketh from the beginning to the end.
AND TOO
15 That which hath been is now; and that which is to be hath already been; and God requireth that which is past.
AH NOT I HAVE IT I THINK
ALL OUR EFFORTS ARE BLOCKED BY OUR PAST HABITS OF SELF GLORY AND PERSIST TILL WE FACE THEM FOR WHAT THEY ARE
AND I THINK ONE OF THE TOOLS OF SALVATION TO EVENTUALLY FACE AND OVERSOME SAID SPIRITUAL REBELLION IS REINCARNATION...
WOMAN TENDS TO BE MORE PERSISTENT AB0UT PAST ISSUES OF HURT
AS WOMAN TOO IS SYMBOLIC OF THE HEART AND OF THE EMOTIONAL PAST STRUCTURES OF SELF
IN BOTH SEXES BUT WOMEN TEND TO BE MORE CAUGHT UP AND IN A SENSE CONSISTENT
ABOUT BEING PERSISTENT OF BRINGING UP PAST ISSUES
NOT ALWAYS IN THE BEST OF WAYS BUT STILL
IN A WAY THAT RELATES TO
15 That which hath been is now; and that which is to be hath already been; and God requireth that which is past.
OVER TIME EVENTUALLY ALL SOULS GO OH DUH ... ALL THESE PROBLEMS
ARE A RESULT OF MY PAST SPIRITUAL REBELLION AND LACK OF TRUE EMOTIONAL RESPONSIVENESS AND RESPONSIBILITE
WHAT THE WOMEN TENDS TO DO THO IS PRESUME MORE IN TERMS OF BEING EMOTIONALLY TRULY RESPONSIVE
THAN SHE REALLY IS.....
AND OFTERN STRANGELY PERSISTENT IN A REATHER ILLOGICAL INCONSISTENT WAY...
THE THING ABOUT INCONSISTENCY
IS THAT IT DEVELOPS PATTERNS OF CONSISTENCY IN ITS INCONSISTENCY
THAT HAS A LOT TO DO WITH PERSONALITY TYPES....
CONSISTENCY COMES FROM WHEN ONE'S PRESENT MENTAL STATE AND ACTIVITY
HONESTLY LOOKS AT ITS PAST AND REALIZES THRU REPENTANCE IT CAN TRANSFORM
THE OLD HEART OF THE PAST INTO A NEW HEART OF PURE DESIRES AND PERFECTION
WHERE MIND AND HEART ARE IN PERFECT AGREEMENT AND
DO NOT CONTRIDICT EACH OTHER
BUT THE GREATER POWER FOR CHANGE IS THE ACTIVE PRESENT CONSCIOUS CHOICES
THAT ADMITS TO THE TRUE NATURE AND RECORD OF WHAT HAS PERSISTED IN ITS SUBCONSCIOUS
TILL ONE CONSCIOUSLY MAKES THE RIGHT CHOICE
AND THUS TRANSCENDS TIME AND SPACE BY PROPER USE OF THE MIND
AND REDIRECTS THE EGO FROM ITS OLD HABITS
TO A PROPER SUBMISSION TO THE WILL OF THE CREATOR...
AND IN SUCH STATE
CAN PROPERLY BE IN THE WORLD BUT NOT OF THE WORLD
TILL ONE RECEIVES ITS GLORIFIED SOUL BODY AND ENTERS THE KINGDOM OF GOD....
BY WAY OF ADOPTING THE CONSISTENCY OF PURE DESIRES THAT IS WILL OF THE CREATOR
FOR ALL TO RETURN TO
AND OVERCOME THE VANITY OF VANITIES OF A FALLEN EGO...
WHERE THERE IS NOTHING NEW UNDER THE SUN[SYMBOLIC THERE I THINK OF THE SUBCONSCIOUS]
UNTIL THE LIGHT OF TRUTH SETS ONE FREE FROM ONE'S OWN PAST NATURE
AND ASSUMES A NEW AND CONSISTENT NATURE WHERE MIND AND HEART ARE IN PERFECT AGREEMENT
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SO TO SPEAK
