I have recently split with my partner of 3 years, and entered another before the last was even over,
this is proving difficult for me at the moment because I am aware of the ridiculous and hurtful nature of what I am doing
to both my partner and myself!!
This has pushed me further to investigate what any issue with me might be, as prior to this I was in a
another relationship overlap, I knew something was up with me?
I am fearful as this behaviour might repeat itself in the future even though I very much love my current partner,
and want to settle down with her possibly marry and have children. My past partners I have hurt terribly and I have great
remorse it makes me wonder if I have the capacity to have a fulfilling relationship at all.
I have come to the conclusion that I am blame, and visiting this message board has given me a few revelations.
I am the a middle child and throughout my youth was never heard for many years this being because my older brother
always argued with my mother so he and her were the only ones heard in the house, I rarely spoke, my non existence
gave rise to be burying myself in school work, this continued throughout my teens where I became the academic
one in the family, still looking for some voice through my qualifications, which never came. even after gaining an MA Degree.
I have a healthy relationship with my brothers, but not my parents and
the need to heal this repetitive cycle in my relationships and the relationship I am in for the future has drawn me to
this message board.