Hi el,
Do any of you INTJ people have problems with authority?
If the authority is corrupt from the core and I know it, then I have a problem with it. One that we're all familiar with is the 'speed trap'. Doesn't it always smack of corruption?
Do any of you INTJ people have problems with authority? I have massive problems with authority. I can't stand any authority figure telling me what to do..but this might be a by-product of my abuse, amplified by the INTJ traits (Or perhaps my INTJ traits were enhanced from the abuse.
You may have captured the core of what drives your rejection or aversion of authority. It makes sense that one, the abuse plays into the other, the personality type. My guess is that the abuse plays a much bigger part in it.
Authority isn't always about external forces, though it certainly could have looked that way growing up in the crazy environment created by your dad. Here on the board, we talk a lot about boundaries, or if you please, the guidelines we've established and continue establishing to govern the outwardness and the inwardness of self. We guard against losing what we've reclaimed.
Those of us who were abused almost always have to consciously establish in adulthood, what those from healthy homes did unconsciously and gradually as they grew up. For them it was probably as effortless as their hair growing. But for us, it is tedious, makes us feel crazy, takes all our energy. It makes life harder. They (those who grew up in relative healthy environments) didn't have to 'become' alone. Neither should we. I'm glad you have a T. I'm glad you read and post here. I'm glad you are smart, aware, motivated, and determined. I'm glad you're proactive in seeking wholeness.
It is our gift to ourselves to take authority over our ourselves, our habits, our emotions, our vices, our gifts, our time, our attentions, our intentions. Having done that, we are about as well-equipped as we will ever be to make accurate, informed, healthy judgments about external authority, which in turn will eliminate the need to reject all authority out of hand.
tt