Frustrated

[Overcomer]

So I jump through all the hoops.  I attend a support group meeting, I do a psych evaluation, I do a stress test and this all has taken six weeks.  So I go in and hand the last thing I need to the receptionist and say "Ok, now when can I schedule my surgery?" and she says the group has to meet to in over my chart.  So I asked her if that would happen next week and she said she could not guarantee it.  So I am trying to schedule a vacation in August and I have this receptionist which is the voice

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Of the practice telling me nothing.  My alone pressure went up and I almost asked her to let me talk to the nurse.  This practice just kind of strings you along with no commitments.  Dont there people know that we have lives and need to have some idea when they might get you in?

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Any other doctor kind of lets you know what is happening and I personally think they have a rude person at their front desk-but why should I be surprised?  You cannot go out to dinner and get good service.  You cannot get good service anywhere.  I went to look for furniture and not one person said one word to me and they are on commission.  Oh I am frustrated-I just want to live my life and like Storm not have every light turn red on me!

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No one cares but me.

[Ami]

I am sorry,Kelly----(((((((((((((((((((((((Kelly))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
 If I say something--- Don't get mad at me. ----- maybe it is a sign to postpone your surgery. IMO--you could lose the weight if you got to the  emotional"root' of why you are using food to medicate pain.
 Then, I think that the pounds will just come off without much trouble.
    I don't like to 'push" against things that seem to be stalled.( problems scheduling) .                                             I can tell you by the depth of healing that I am having -- that you can do it. You have to face the betrayal(mind blowing), the rejection( almost unbearable) and the pain. Under it is joy and freedom. I am not there,but I can see glimpses of it.
    I hope that you will receive this in the spirit with which it was given(with love)             Love   Ami

[Hopalong]

I am sorry you're frustrated, Kell...
I know it must feel like there are obstacles,
universe being obstinate...

Just observe if you can, try to find stillness.

Peace to you (((((((((((Kell)))))))))))

love,
Hops

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Thanks Am and Hops.  Am I would never take what you say with anything other than love and compassion.  Even when most of the people told me not to do it I never thought anyone was anything other than concerned and nice.  Maybe this is their way to weed out the impulsive people and force us to have delayed gratification-Something overweight people do not do well.  Maybe something will happen which will change my mind but not just frustration.  I just cannot stand people who work in service who do

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Not give good service.  Thanks for responding.  I try to have input in many threads but posting on your phone is hard.

[Stormchild]

Kell, honestly I think Ami is right. Take this as a sign.

If these people are this shoddy and lousy about communicating now, please think very carefully about why you want these same people to put you under general anesthesia and perform very risky surgery on you.

If you can't get a straight answer from them now, please think very carefully about how likely you will be to get a straight answer from them after your surgery if something seems to be going wrong or you don't feel well.

Please think about this Kell. Maybe you should be talking to a different group of doctors. Maybe someone else should be doing your surgery.

[pennyplant]

Yes, Kelly, Storm has a very good point here.  I know someone who had the stomach surgery.  He had complications for over a year afterwards.  It is very important to have excellent aftercare in case there are complications.  They need to pay good attention to you for quite a while afterwards.

Along the lines of what Ami has said, of the three people I have met who had this type of surgery, two of them continued to be obsessed with food all the time.  (The third one is the person described above).  Yes, they lost the weight.  But thoughts of food and the pursuit of food held them captive in other ways.

This surgery is really a big deal.

I hope things go very well for you, Kell.

Pennyplant

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It makes you wonder doesnt it?  I went online and looked up the docs rating and more than one person was dissatisfied initially but their rating went up later.  Of course I will keep my eyes open and if I feel jerked around I may look further.