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Peanut:
I have been on this site for hours reading and I just can't stop.

I have NEVER run into people who express these same feelings/experiences as I've had = I just can't believe it hardly...

I'm not a loon after all, (well, I am, but you probably know what I mean)...

I should have known that I wasn't the only one that experienced all of this stuff, (especially the N mother stuff)...

I'm not being very articulate...probably because I'm speechless at having found people who may actually understand...

I'm obviously overwhelmed, and grateful.

I very much look forward to interacting with you all more in the future.

Most sincerely, Peanut

rosencrantz:
:D  I know the feeling Peanut!  Welcome!!!
R

JustKathy:
Hi Peanut.

I too just recently found this place. I haven't done much posting, mainly lurking, but the comments that I've read have been SO helpful to me. I'm going through a difficult time right now, having recently cut ties with my "N" mother after 30+ years of abuse and control that was NEVER going to stop. It was a hard decision to make, but I believe I made the right choice. The torment had to stop.

My therapist (who is VERY knowledgeable on the subject) has given me a great deal of encouragement and advice through much of this, but it helps tremendously to hear from others who have experienced similar situations. Like you said . . . makes me realize that I'm NOT alone, and NOT crazy. I'm very glad to have found this place.

Kathy

Peanut:
Thank you very much, R and Kathy, for the warm replies of welcome.   :D

Do you want to discuss your cut off from NMom, Kathy, or is the decision still too fresh, or...

The reason I ask is that....[hesitating....]...., I've had the experience of my Mom's suicide and the aftermath/dealing with the complex grief and all, and, I was wondering if you have explored, (actually I'm thinking that you probably have, but...), how you will feel/deal with the termination of the relationship over the long term....  <if you sense that I'm hedging & tippy-toeing, I am>.  

I have to go to the gym now, but I'll be back.    Warmest regards, Peanut

Tokyojim:
I too, have found this site to be fantastic!

I can rarely speak with others about "my friend" the N, simply because people do not understand or find such conversation boring.

One colleague is a retired clinical psychologist who had a number of N clients.  She said that not a single one came because of NPD itself but rather because of comorbid problems (bipolar, drugs) or due to the results of N behavior - job losses, martial problems, etc.  In every case, she said there was no change in the N behavior itself.

I have found that people simply cannot believe the behaviors unless they have had personal contact with them and some study/information about the disorder.

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