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Is It Always N Behavior to Violate Others' Boundaries?
Bella_French:
Dear Bones; I can relate. Sometimes you just wish they'd give you some breathing space, huh? Its such a drain thinking of having to have a big confrontation, when all you want is a bit of respect. I think you've handled things so well though; you are an especially aware person!
Hugs to you,
X Bella
BonesMS:
--- Quote from: Bella_French on October 10, 2007, 02:55:50 AM ---Dear Bones; I can relate. Sometimes you just wish they'd give you some breathing space, huh? Its such a drain thinking of having to have a big confrontation, when all you want is a bit of respect. I think you've handled things so well though; you are an especially aware person!
Hugs to you,
X Bella
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Thanks, Bella!
It's so tiring after attempting to communicate with an oblivious wall for several years. After what I've been observing with her for the past couple of months, it's put her conflicts with her other family members in a whole new light! (She attempts to portray herself as the "total innocent".)
Bones
BonesMS:
Another possible characteristic of an N:
If an N can't have what someone else has, the N will attempt to destroy it, (while having the mentality of: "If I can't have it, then NOBODY can have it!")
Bones
BonesMS:
It appears I'm going to have to end two relationships. I'm already distancing myself from the Nfriend that I have been discussing in this thread. Now it looks like I'm going to have to finally take the bull by the horns and give my boyfriend the boot as well. I started looking at a lot of stuff that has been going on in the past year and kept feeling like something is missing. Today, I had to drag it out of him that he has finally completed his Ph.D. (He didn't think it was important enough to tell me even though he claims to love me.) There's been a pattern of stuff going on for seven years and I think I've finally found the courage to use my voice and speak up to him about what is lacking between us because this "relationship" feels so empty. I just sent him an e-mail spelling out everything that has been bothering me for a long time.
Bones
BonesMS:
Some of the things I discussed in my e-mail to my boyfriend:
He comes into my home whether or not I am home (to take care of his birds) but I have not been able to set foot in his house for HOW LONG?!?!?!? (Now what is wrong with that picture?)
Any attempts to talk about anything that is important to us is met with: "I don't know".
Then there was the issue of his scheduling his dissertation stuff AFTER he had been given EIGHT MONTHS NOTICE about my graduation so that he did not attend or celebrate with me. The nonverbal message from him seems to say that my achieving a goal is not important enough to him to attend. (It's bad enough my Nrelatives ignored me whenever I achieved an educational milestone but THIS from someone who professes to "love" me?!?!?!?!?!?)
Bones
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