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Anna:
I'm confused as to whether this board is only pertaining to NPD or not.  I don't believe that my childhood voicelessness arose from N parents, but rather codependent mother/alcoholic father.  I'm 43 and struggle daily to allow myself a voice.  In either case, the resulting symptoms of voicelessness are the same.  Lack of worth was huge for me.  Relationship problems, etc etc   At 41 I was diagnosed with throat cancer and almost had to lose my voice for life.  Ironic since I didn't have a voice to begin with.  So...... a message from my body!  Wake up!    Anyway, I look forward to reading my way through these messages.  Peace.

CC:
Hi Anna, your visit at this NPD board is not farfetched at all.  In fact, many NPDs are alchoholics to boot (my mother is one).

Interesting that you have this throat thing, with the voicelessness and all.  I don't think it's coincidence at all.  My allergies manifest themselves in my throat -a post nasal drip in the back that causes me to constantly clear my throat, and I grind my teeth at night (my therapist connects the clenched-jaws with the defense mechanism of holding back my words = voicelessness).   I really believe that most ailments are psychologically related.  If we have a weakness in one area, it manifests itself in the corresponding body part. Many of us carry our stress and traumas in our bodies.

Welcome. Please visit my next post  for more info which I will be adding for everyone's benefit who might be interested.

Dr. Richard Grossman:
Hi Anna,

This board serves the voiceless, no matter what the source.  I would love to hear your story--and so would many others who come from backgrounds similar to yours.  Welcome aboard!

rosencrantz:
Welcome Anna - I've been overjoyed with the truth that I've found for myself on this board.  I'm still a long way from finding a 'vocal' voice but the opportunity to write and share thoughts has been immensely healing and empowering (sometimes painful!).  

May you find healing in sharing your story, too.  :)

And, yes, I grind my teeth, too, and my throat gets constricted when I react to the things people say ('it took my breath away').  It's diagnosed as asthma.

Lyshorathi:
Hello Anna, and welcome.

I don't grind my teeth, but I do experience severe, stress-related stomach pain.  I've to think of it as my little invisible ulcer, rearing it ugly head whenever I've gotten myself in too deep.  I know it sounds a little odd, but I think this is because I wasn't allowed to eat anything unless my mother approved it first, even if I starving.

Fortunately, my mother's creativity didn't extend to how she hid her chocolate stash.   :wink:

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