Halloween-----no doubt the holiday created with Ns in mind. Evil, monsters, fear all wrapped up in the "gimme, gimme, gimme" mentality of trick or treating.
I always loved Halloween. But it does remind me of the deep narcissistic behaviors of my Nmom. My Nmom would never accompany us when we trick or treated as kids, never helped with costumes (back then, we always created our own costumes out of anything we could find in the house). She directed us to never go to our neighbors when trick or treating. If we must, she told us, go to the houses of people we didn't know. DIdn't want to bother the neighbors of course! That's what was most important. My Nmom never took any enjoyment or pleasure in her kids at Halloween (or any other time for that matter). She'd never be the one to answer the door to hand out candy. In fact, she thinks all the decorations and costumes and Halloween activities are just silly and a waste. I've found that Ns, as a general rule, tend to be humorless and unable to have fun.
I contrast that to behaviors of parents I see today. They take an active role in helping their kids pick out costumes. THey fawn over them when they're dressed in costume and take pictures and videos. (IN my family, we literally had one single photo of myself and my siblings in costume and that was taken by a neighborhood friend who gave us a copy). These parents walk door to door with the kids and wait for them as they collect their treats. THey take delight when their kids relish a particular treat they receive. They attend school Halloween parties or activities with their kids or at provide cupcakes or other treats to take to their school party. In short, they not only allow but encourage their kids to fully enjoy this holiday and to have fun.
Yup, nothing more scary than a true N. They don't even need a costume. ANd for those of us who have to deal with them, it's Halloween every day of the year....
Anyway, enjoy the holiday! Whether children or adults, it's a great holiday. There are so few opportunities to truly have fun.. I say take advantage of it!
And don't let the Ns in your life scare you today!
