ok, well I posted some things from Proverbs about why to not stay in a dysfunctional relationship,but I've decided to take one Proverb at a time and share from it, what I glean about dysfunctional relationships in general, so, to those interested...here is the first...
Prov 1 v 10: "My son, if sinners entice you, Do not consent. If they say, "Come with us, Let us lie in wait to shed blood; Let us lurk secretly for the innocent without cause; Let us swallow them alive like Sheol, And whole, like those who go down to the Pit..."
Prov 1 v 15: "My son, do not walk in the way with them, Keep your foot from their path; For their feet run to evil, And they make haste to shed blood."
Later in this chapter, it says that the way of the greedy takes away their lives.
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REGARDING THE RELATIONSHIP (RTR)
First of all, if the dysfunctional person, tells you to do something that violates your conscience, including something that will harm another person, DO NOT CONSENT. Do not agree to go along with something that is just plain WRONG! This is why I say, if you can LEAVE the environment, get away from this messed up person. You can pray for them, care about them, etc...but DO IT FROM A DISTANCE< if at all possible. Be true to God and yourself in all of your actions.
Hope you noticed this verse: Let us lurk secretly for the innocent without cause;
WITHOUT CAUSE.
Do you ever notice that you are SCAPEGOATED in a situation where you do NOT deserve it? This is a specialty of dysfunctional abusers, in order to keep you confused and off kilter, and eventually thinking that you really DID do something wrong. It's also known as GASLIGHTING.
The next part of this, tells you what to do regarding dangerous people and toxic people and not only that, it tells you WHY! Keep your foot, Do not walk...in other words GET THE H outta there! WHY? because there is bad stuff about to happen and possible DEATH, whether that death is literal or a death of identity, either way, I think I speak for many in saying it is NOT something you want.
The last part of this chapter, tells us that people who are greedy, which is a typical traits of narcissists in particular, with their entitlement issues of "why WOULDN"T you want to give me what I want. Of COURSE you would."...that these types of people, are gradually "dying."
I think many of us feel like we've encountered the living dead with the N's in our family and lives. It's that feeling that they are always WANTING and STRIVING endlessly with no relief. A sort of emotional/psychological inner HELL that N's go through, feeling they will never fill the void and yet being compelled to continue grasping at things that perpetuate that emptiness.
~Laura
