Mini Goals---Today I will.................

[Ami]

Lighters  thread seems to be going in a direction which she needs ,so I am starting a new one in the same vein.
  I "used" to have qualities that I liked about myself. There were several. One was that I was ( am) a warm person. I had the ability to make  people to feel 'better" by  seeing the "special" qualities  in them. I valued this in myself b/c I loved to 'light" up a person by finding  s/thing  special in them .
 Anyway, I bring this up to encourage anyone who is interested to pick a quality in yourself that you might have lost and decide to "resurrect"( un bury) . .Our good qualities  are part of our "voice" ,too.
  For me, I have to love myself first before I have an over flow of love to give out to others. This was part of WHY I was a warm person. I had enough love inside that I was not 'worrying" about me( My Aunt is like this. You really feel special after you talk to her.).I was not in competition with anyone.Also, I did not need anyone to affirm me( basically) I thought that I was O.K. and so I could look outside myself to make s/one else comfortable.
  So, today, I will love myself( against ALL of my M's wishes)I can see her in the sky already sharpening her knife.Shut up--- I tell her.                                       Love  Ami

[Hopalong]

Wonderful, Ami.
I look forward to the day when you say to yourself exactly what your Aunt said, and regularly, and believe it!

I believe it.

love,
Hops

[Iphi]

It's a great idea!  Today I will try to catch myself, at least once or twice, when I let other people tell me who I am, and I will say "I am not that."  Cause I do it all day long.  And it's got to be all about what you do on the inside.

In the book I am constantly 'reading' (a page a week?) Eckhart Tolle writes that if you sort out the inside of yourself, the outside of things will sort itself out and work out fine.

[Hopalong]

PS--
Sorry Ami, forgot you're not fond of "Hon."

Hops

[Ami]

NO, Hops.  That is Lupita. I LOVE names of endearment !!!                                        Ami

[Hopalong]

Thanks, honeybunch!

 

Hops

[Ami]

Today, I made a mistake and did not condemn myself over it. I was trying to wash my older dog who was covered by going to the bathroom on herself. I was despairing of ever getting it all off. I was sitting in the water(that was running off her) ,in the yard b/c I did not want her to move.
  My S was angry at me b/c I was not listening to his story about work. He let out the little dog and did not notice. I started screaming like a mad woman for the little dog to come back in.
  I acted like  wild person out in the back yard. So what if the neighbors think that I am a nut. So what,I lost it.
  That was it. I made a mistake.                          Ami