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less:
Aha! Just connected some dots thanks to you! My throat closing down -literally not being able to speak - really started me on this journey. People comment that it was my body manifesting my emotional imprisonment and I think that is true..but maybe as well it was a silent cry for help. My goodness we are mysterious creatures. Reading between the lines I can hear the immense pain you had.
How true, how true- N parents can't begin to meet emotional needs. Not even honk'n big ones like breast cancer (my poor sister), birth of grandchildren (now There is something to be angry about!) broken arms-agh just deleted a bunch of stuff. It's too gross to write just yet I'll- save it for the therapy couch!
Hooray for being silly and goofy! Am I the same tentative person who checked every comma last night!
thanks again x-furniture mover. Where you are sounds a lot better. And moving furniture sounds better than inward turning anger. Onwards and outwards from hereMM
Maybe we should all rearrange the living room once a month... just being silly. Les(S)
sonia:
Hey there Less.
The mayor of our little town had the same problem with her voice as you describe. She didn't have surgery but was told to rest her voice.
Is your condition getting any better? Are you finding your voice in this forum? I hope things get better for you. Read all you can about Ns. It's fascinating and instructive (at least I've found it so).
Sonia
Peanut81:
Hi Les(s):
--- Quote ---How true, how true- N parents can't begin to meet emotional needs. Not even honk'n big ones like breast cancer (my poor sister), birth of grandchildren (now There is something to be angry about!) broken arms-agh just deleted a bunch of stuff. It's too gross to write just yet I'll- save it for the therapy couch!
--- End quote ---
My Mom slapped me at my Dad's funeral (while I was standing at his coffin saying goodbye), because " wasn't paying enough attention to HER."
Ah, the classics!
Regards, Peanut
less:
Hi Sonia
Thanks for your interest - I think that alone makes this board a healing place - someone I don't know wonders how my voice is... the wonder of it all, and of course my mother - enough said. I can see a direct link between the tension I feel and the hard constricted feeling in my throat. This act of writing out and releasing some of the tightness- emotionally, physically seems already to be making a difference. And bonus! People write back with thoughtful things to say! Does the mayor know what is causing the problem? Sometimes it is an overuse of the vocal cords and as you say they do need a rest. Some people need to learn how to USE their vocal cords and not the muscles in their neck to vocalize. I was shown via scoping my throat how I overuse these overdeveloped muscles to talk. And how are you?
Peanut 81 - my god -What happened to you just chills me. And have you somehow managed to carry on with this classic mother? I might as well put it out that at 8 I came home with a badly broken arm (smashed into the school on my red flying saucer sliding down an icy hill) which caused my mother to slap me hard enough to send me across the kitchen floor. It's only now, many years later, that I think hey that can't be right! Good grief. thanks peanut - reallyhope you've got that mother under control
mighty mouse:
Hi Les(s),
I've been thinking about your name "less".
And if you get out from under all the N garbage with your 100% perfect NMom, you will have "less" angst, "less" anger, "less" lies, "less" grief....yada, yada, yada. I think you get the drift.
I see you are posting freely now. Go forward and take heart!!! And get your voice back. Can you laugh out loud?
I still can't sleep good at night even though I've been away from family of origin for 28 years. It was impossible to relax and I still can't relax even after all these years. But I hope you can relax...or chillax as Bernie Mac says and maybe you will get your voice back.
MM
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