My Aunt

[Overcomer]

I am not sure but I think I am seeing a lot of pot calling the kettle black in this thread.

[An Observer]

Just a clueless Brit I guess


Verbal Abuse and Hatred on a Voicelessness and Emotional Abuse Message Board ????!!!!!


 


Wake Up and Shake Up

[wiltay]

Gosh, me?  Lighter started a flame war.  She has said things every bit as disrespectful and inflamatory to Ami, whom I consider to be good friend.  The abuse began with Lighter, no question in my mind at all.  Ami did not ONCE ask for all the so-called 'advice' Lighter kept trying to shove down her throat.  The first rule when you start a flame war like Lighter did, is that you are ASKING for retaliation from someone.  Hatred?  I don't hate anybody.  When someone starts a conflict it generates anger, not the same thing as hatred at all.  Calling it hatred is itself inflamatory.

           I come from a long background of being on all male boards. The rules are quite different.  Guys don't trash other people while pretending they are only trying to help. They wouldn't get away with it. Males fight far more honestly and openly IMO that has happened on this board.  But the fights are long and brutal and virtually ANYTHING goes. You start something you better expect the worst because you'll probably get it.  What you DON'T do is start a fight and then whine when the bricks start flying because they will. 

Bill
         

[Ami]

Very true . Men are much more up front(IMO)                       Ami

[lighter]

 You're right, Bill. 

Women are the only posters who name call, finger point, criticize posts they haven't read, make assumptions about other poster's motives, project and use dramatic language like 'abuse, hatred, pure flame war and retaliation"

Ummmmm, who knew? 
 
Thanks be to God you're here to show us how men post... ::nod:: 


 

[wiltay]

In my mind Lighter, the blame rests with the person that STARTED the entire thing, which in this case was YOU.  You were politely asked several times to stop your behavior and you wouldn't do it.  Sure once the brawl starts, anything is fair--that's just he way fights are, what in the world do you expect?  Projection--sure, we all do it, me too, never said I didn't.  But I will take only what I think belongs to me, no more.  HOWEVER, abuse IS abuse, it's not just 'drama.' A  flame war is a flame war. it's a fact of life.  It's why I quit the male boards, it was continuous, unending, completely disruptive and unproductive.  I did NOT like you introducing it into what I thought was a peaceful situation. (I was mistaken about the peace)   I did not introduce the word 'hatred,' *I* was accused of it.  See a difference?  I don't understand your reference to criticizing posts I haven't read. What does that refer to?

[Overcomer]

Just so I will know, who is from Britain?

[isittoolate]

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lighter

Izz... do you suppose Bill sees the irony involved in making accusations....

then turning around and making accusations? 

The list says name-calling is verbal abuse. AHA! 
 
Sir William is the Brit who is name-calling

Izzy

[Overcomer]

He is?  Who else is from England?  Leah?

[lighter]

You may assume all my posts to Ami were attacks.... you;ve done that in fact.... without benefit of reading them.


You assume she was attacked, not just feeling attacked.

She doesn't even know what screenames I've posted under so how could you?

[Overcomer]

I am trying Am but no one will tell me.

[lighter]

Overcomer.... I can't tell if Wiltay's a Brit or if he's calling me a Brit. 

I assume he's British but it's hard to say from his post.

[Dr. Richard Grossman]

Hi everyone,

Since I can see no new ground broken here, everybody has 12 more hours to say their last piece, then this thread will be locked.

Best,

Richard

[Ami]

I want to thank every person who   generously  gave me so much   love and affection. Honestly ,it was mind--blowing .. On the board, there are always "life experiences' to  be learned. I have had SO  many so far. All of them are 'new' and unexpected.
They prepare me for life-- and I NEED preparation.
  This experience was one of love .I was the recipient  of so many people's love.I felt a new part of my heart open.
 Thank you  so very, much.
 Lighter, I hope that you can go on in your way ,as I go on mine.     Love   Ami
 
   

[lighter]

Awww, man, Ami.....

Get WIltay and those 2 little dogs of yours into Westside Story costumes.... you're Jets....

 ::Affecting Peurto Rican Accent::  My turn to be a Shark



TONIGHT.....

WE RUMBLE!

::whispering::

Right after Dr. G's goes nitey nite.