The Why Question

[changing]

I am not a professional, so I am only speaking from my own admittedly limited experience and understanding.

When a child evidences a pathology of some sort, doctors try to diagnose why in order to find a method of assisting healing and health. Another why can be asked- Why would an innocent child be struck with illness, etc.

These two whys may have some correlation on some level, but they are not the same question ultimately. When the why causation of the physical manifestation is addressed and ascertained, if there are any medical interventions, they can then be utilized to fight the disease itself. The why question of why was the child visited with the disease in a metaphysical sense may never be answered on the level of the human mind and heart.

We can support each other in our sharing and finding healing for our problems as they are manifested, but may never be able to metaphysically understand the reason that these and other pathologies exist on the earth plane. If there are ways to treat what is happening, we can share them and also give loving support. We can also ponder the metaphysical why together, knowing that our understanding and power in that area is limited, and may even take some solace from that endeavor as well.

Love,

Changing

[Iphi]

 
Changing, you have wonderful gifts of discernment, expression and diplomacy of speech.  You would make a wonderful diplomat altogether or superb representative for an NGO or other international organization working to improve communication.  It's truly an astonishingly evident gift of yours.

As to 'why?'  I have no compunction about asking why this and why that.  Why genetically, why philosophically.  If I did not have a habit of asking 'why' then I would not have discovered NPD and would not be here in the first place.  I'm sure the pressures and exigencies of my circumstances would have funneled straight into action, because that is the way I am made, and I would have long ago ended badly.  Asking 'why' has its own impact, whether an answer can ever be forthcoming or not.

[Hopalong]

Changing,

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Hi (((Iphi)))

Hops

[gratitude28]

I asked why, and how, for a long time... Now I tend towards the What Now...
Even if there were an answer to the why... to me it would be an unacceptable answer. Many people have come up from horrible places and did not become the monsters our Ns are... They have no excuse.
So... we need to pick up and go one and learn to accept that we did not figure into the why.
Lots of love and an outstanding point.
Love, Beth

[Hopalong]

Well put, Beth!

we did not figure into the why

There was no "we", to them. So it really really wasn't personal, no matter how it felt.

amazing.

xo
Hops

[isittoolate]

Interesting, as all the time I was with the N it was always, from him, "I, Me Mine" even though I was involved and he ought to have used "We, Us, Ours".

After I left him he bought a book that he thought would help 'US' and I just about croaked............. the only time he referred about us that way!!
Izzy

[Leah]

Mine did not do the plural much either and something else that has leapt out at me recently is that he was most reluctant to share anything with me, his thoughts, or what he may have been reading, no chit-chat or discourse -- nothing. 

Then another recollection that speaks to me is when we were engaged in a team leader role and he was asked to get up and speak of it -- he totally excluded me, not that I desired any recognition, just that lately, it has spoken to me in a big way -- that we were not plural.

Love, Leah