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October:
My mum only listens if she has not heard something before.  And then she repeats it to anyone and everyone she can find, without any discrimination at all.  When I was a teenager I used to hear my most intimate secrets discussed with strangers at bus stops.  I soon learned to tell her nothing.

I think I may have mentioned already that mum always reads the paper before anyone else, and that she often reads bits of it out loud - I really hate that - with her own disgusted tone of voice, of course.  (She never reads out any good bits, only bits which fit her own prejudices.)

flower:
Hi October,    

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Thanks so much for your insight and support.
 It aided my healing. Too much of my heart
was in this post to let it remain here for posterity on the web.
The post served its purpose and now it is time to
edit it or gently take it down.
 
To every thing there is a season, and a time
to every purpose under the heaven:  Ecclesiates 3:1

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Feline:
I don't go by my birth name when I meet people  because I am not beholden to my birth family and I don't feel like I am part of it or belong there. I  am different than them.
When I use my birth name it is for convienece. Soon I will get my real name,one I recieved as a gift  in a spiritual encounter,Underground Panther in the Sky.That is my real name. I am called panther by my real family,my freinds whom respect me and whom I cherish in return.

I want to legally change my name because I am not my mother or my father and because they labeled me and did not value me as a person,
I will value me and label myself in a way with a word that has precious connotations and positive meanings for me. But it's a paperwork task and complicated and it takes time..So...

Technically what is a name? So if we take the name our parents give us without question... why do it?

I hate my birth name.It has been a tool for bullies for years and it makes me cringe to associate myself with it. I didn't have a name for years,I had a label a handle some noise to distuinguish me from others when I was called  in a room.

I was given my birth name  because I was "small"my mom says.
Well I ain't small no more.

I do not have to accept anything my parents declare.
And that includes my birth name and all the pain it carries.
I can choose to name myself in a way that is discriptive and worthy of what I am.

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