A Happy Ending

[Kimberli63]

What a lovely story, Lise. I actually shed tears of sadness and then tears  of joy when you described how all the negatives had been turned into positives.

 "All it took was my sister to have the courage to ask for help, me to not be selfish and for her son to use his VOICE!"

That sentence says it all. However, I think there is another element in there: trust. Each person in the chain trusted their own instincts  and followed their hearts. That is what recovery is all about.

Congratulations on achieving such a good outcome. Thanks for sharing your story.

Kim

[Gabben]

Hi Kim,

Thanks for taking the time to read my story. Also, thanks for your post.

Believe it or not, I printed your entire story about a week ago, really. I took it home with me since I tend to live at work and rarely get on my home computer.

Your story is long but interesting, I have read through about 65% of it. I'm still reflecting and I need to read it again. A lot has happened in the last week; I have lost track of where I was, sorry.

Slowly I have been working my way through your forgiveness thread. Anger is my issue, at least for now. I have some real deep hurt behind the anger -- I have found that forgiveness is a process but that I have to want it, I have to seek, persue and claim it all the while I cry and feel what never got felt or expressed from my childhood -- can you relate?

A while back I posted about victim anger (look back at Victim Anger part 1 and 2 on pages 4 or 5 of this board), after reading some of your life story and some of your other posts here the thought has crossed my mind to respond to your forgiveness thread and ask if you would read the Victim Anger stuff and give me your take?

I can post it here if you would like?

It has only been about a 8 weeks that I have been on the board; I have found that if you hang tough, trust, as you say, and keep using your voice you will meet some genuine people, like yourself who will be encouraging and strengthening.

Hope you stay - nice to meet you.

Lise

[Kimberli63]

Lise, it was actually that post on anger, which gave me the final momentum to go forward so fast. Mind you, I have been working on all this stuff for 42 years.I almost got there in 1990 and then my understanding stalled. Strangely, I recently met someone on the Internet and he and I started talking. He has a Narc wife and has  been researching for 12 years and without knowing he had the key, I told him a few things abut my life and one day, he said "I know your story" and then everything fell into place and I understood why. It has been exhilarating to finally be free.

Weird things come to mind at times, like things I thought I liked, I really don't. Take jewellery for instance, I have a whole safe full of beautiful jewellery. You know why because my mother liked jewellery? I could take it or leave it. It seems such a shame to have this collection of stuff  when I actually I think  jewellery is artificial and fake.

Writing has been my release, and I couldn't burden that man with long pieces I had written because he has his own recovery to work through. This board has been a blessing. There are so many people hurt and in pain and at least they can come here and be free to talk about issues that bother them.

Kim

Ps I am glad that even with though my writing is very lengthy, you are finding it useful. I always had this complaint at university. Too wordy, too much said. Now I can laugh then I felt insulted.

[Ami]

Thank you Lise for sharing that story. It shows how miracles are always working.
 I am honored to be your friend and most especially "sister"
 May we share the precious journey to getting our voices back, dear friend.          Love   Ami

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