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[Lupita]

Try to provide your thought with a rational response rather than the automatic responses that come from your hiden fears.

[cats paw]

  I'm familiar with it, I think I have a copy somewhere- I couldn't remember if that was the one you said was really helping.

  Did the therapist help you in this way, or did she have a different approach?

[Lupita]

The lady has the same approache but I have seen her only two times.

[Lupita]

I just pray the Lord to forgive me for the mistakes I made with my son. I pray the Lord to help me survive my sixth period semester exam tomorrow. I am going to take a pill and go to bed. Just do not want to be awake. Please Lord, bless my son, please.

[Lupita]

Wait a second. I just identified the feeling. "I always lose"
Not true. I do not always lose. I am discounting the positive. For several consecutive days I was having a wonderful day. So, the rational response is, i do not always lose.
Still, it feels so lonely here.
Good night.

[Leah]

Dear Lupita,

It won't always feel lonely, after you have healed.

That feeling went for me, instead I feel content.

Hope the same for you too.

Love, Leah

[cats paw]

  I did lose track of that part you wrote about her. Was it eight sessions that you were going to have assistance with?  Are you going to continue, or did you stop?

  Hey, just saw you were going to go to sleep as I tried to post the above.  I'm really glad you will get some needed rest.

  Good Night, Lupita ...  

  Again, I tried to post, but now I can add Muey Bien ? You identified it !  Fill in the Spanish words I tried tomorrow, Lupita.

  Sweet dreams.

Cat

[Hopalong]

I'm so sorry Lupita.

Please forgive me when you can.

Hops

[Lupita]

Good morning everyone. I was asked to play for the children's chapel, elementary. The musci teacher there never liked me. Now I do not know if that is a set up or what. Maybe they are going to mislead the children so the singing comes bad. Who knows.
Rational thinking, they cannot be that evil. Today I will practice with the kindergarden principal. There are two ways to see it. She wants to make me feel bad, or this is an opportunity to gain her trust. Maybe with this I can show her that I am not a threat to her that I wish she could be my friend. So, in the middle of my sitorsion I still try to reason, although my stomach says bad, my brain says this is a wnderful opportunty to make friends with the K Principal. I wil try to please her as much as possible.

Can somebody refute my ideas?

That is what I miss from Observer. Her language was very professional. His/Her language was from a person who has cone to college for psichology purposes. Observer talked with scientific words.

Public in general talk in a more moral way. More personal. Public in general are almost always bias towards something. Observer was very impartial. Not critizicing, "well, I told you already.....bla bla bla", not pointing the finger. I hate the "You dont have God in your heart, I have god yin my heart and I am wonderful" ..... I hate that. Observer didnt do that.

I needed more prove, evidence, and Observer has the knowledge. Observer gave evidence, not just vague advise. Like your inner child, who the f*ck is the baby inside, I am not pregnat, Observer provided something I understood. No the so called "layers" I am not a snake to change skins. The fact that I do not know if Observer is a man or a woman is irrelevant. Observer talks like a man, but a man is never busy with shopping. man just dont do it.

Anyway, there I go to overcome my sixth period. Praise the Lord for all my other classes, they are wonderful. Sixth period it is hard to put them to work. They do not want to work. As simple as that.

One more day. What is the purpose of my existence? One more day.

Please, God, dont punish me for not beein grateful to be alive one more day.

Hopalong, please, give me a few days. I will respond to you in a few days. I do not wish to respond right now. Thank you for your understanding. It is not about ofrgiveness. I am just frustrated right now. It will pass.

[Leah]

Dear Lupita,

Just want you to know that you have my respect and admiration for your total honesty, frankness, openness.

You are real, and genuine, what you * see * is what you get.  That's what I like about you, honestly.

Observer is an intelligent person, that says it all, really.

Personally, I thoroughly enjoyed, and appreciated, and in a learning sense, all that Observer took the time and energy to share here, for you, and for others too, as there are many many guests who sit alongside, and read the resources here.

Likewise, I have no connection with the 'inner child' and 'layers' theory either.

Keep being you, Lupita.

That's the best one can be, is to be, yourself.

All the very best for today.

Love, Leah


Edit in:   As Cat's Paw points out, and it is so very true, that ....... "Other people do not find cognitve therapy methods to be what works for them, that's why there are so many languages of healing available for people." 

What works for one person may not work for another, and vice versa.

[cats paw]

Hi Lupita,

  Observer was very skilled and intelligent, and provided a method that some people find very helpful, just as D. Burns provided the method along with his book and workbook.

  Other people do not find cognitve therapy methods to be what works for them, that's why there are so many languages of healing
available for people.  I'm glad you have identified what does NOT work for you as well as what does.

   I agree that Observer has knowledge, yet you are the one who found the evidence by working with the method.

   What irrational thoughts are you wanting to refute ?  Can you isolate them, one at a time?

Cat

[Lupita]

Good evening dear friends. I do not feel like posting at all. But I believe that I have to honor those poeple who took the time to write and write them back.
Sixth period semester exam was wonderful. Thye behaved very nicely and and I had not one single student failing the exam. Those are the days that make me feel important. Feel that I am something. Bad for the part that depends on outside factors, like student behavior.
Well, it seems that it is not a set up. The music teacher has final exams and cant do the elementary chapel. That is why. Good for me. I could have been gone since tonight, but have to go becuase of the chapel, but I feel so good that I am going to participate, that I do not mind at all to work one extraday.
Thank you cat and lea.

Hop, I am not mad at you. Just frustrated. It made me feel sensations of the past with my mother and with other friends. I had a friend who asked me to let her know before i went to her house but she always came to my house with out calling before, and many like that. I have never interfered with anybody's conversation. I really thought that you went beyond your responsibilities as a member. But you did, and I do not want to waste a friend like you because of one thing.

So, I hope that from now on we can forget about that with the hope that I will find another person with the knowledge and time to devote to me as Observer was doing.

I will run to my mail box and come back. Maybe to the gym too. Naaaa, I am exhausted.

[lighter]

Whew.... so glad sixth period exams went well for you, Lupita.

[Hopalong]

Thank you, Lupita.
I earned your frustration, thank you for forgiving me.
I think you are making enormous cognitive leaps.

the hope that I will find another person with the knowledge and time to devote to me as Observer was doing

I hope so, too, Lup.

love to you,
Hops

[Lupita]

Hop, do you remember Bornfree? He posted in one of my threads, he posted about depression in a very professional way. Also, Unconditional, posted about the EDD also in a very professional way and language.
I never heard of Bornfree again nor Unconditional. It is sad that those do not post frequently becuase they sound very knowledgeable.