HI, am home, my son is sleeping. I cant. Just one thing bothered me. I wanted to have group activity with the girfrield and son and the rest but the GF kept taking my son to an isolated room, away from the group. It was Christmas, they just spent one week away in a foreign country, they have a lot of time alone, this noght was to spend together, and he kept coming to the group adn inteact woth everybody and she kept taking him away. I came to them and told them why were they isolated. He told her to come sit with all of us, she did, and a few minutes later there she was taking him away. Everybody was dancing, I asked my son to dance with me, since we take dance lessons together, she held him, and then he said "I came to be with my girlfriend". She won. Or I felt she won. I have lost my son in the hands of a possessive woman. My son is a poeple person. How is he going to survivie in an isolated world? He is only 22. Ready for a master degree. She wants to get married. She will ruin my son. He will never be able to do a master degree with a wife if they get married. I want my son to be happy. But he odes not relizes that he will get bored soon with a possessive person. I was upset all night. There were other girlfirend and boyfriend in the family but they were sticking to the group. There even was a russian boyfriend to one of the cousins. He did not speak Spanish nor was American and he was sticking to the group. Knowing my son, how sociable he is and talkative he is, was isolated, he does not know that he will miss that in the future and if they get married prematurely and she gets pregnant, his life will be ruined.
I wish I did not have reasons to worry. I guess I have to leave everyting in God's hands becuase there is nothing I can do. I told my son in the way home that he should be with the group in a Christmas party and he replied that I never like anybody that I always complained after how nice they are to me. GFM tried to attract my attention several times, but when she finally got my atnetion she suddenly left and there I was alone trying to invent another conversation with somebody else, she did it three times.
My son says that there is no woman perfect and that hse is a good woman and faithful, and she pleases him a lot. She just want his attention exclusively all the time. He will get tired of that with time, I know that.
GFM got everybody to the table and then disappeared, the she dragged everybody to dance and ten disappeared, like she wants to control everybody. She does so many things just like my mother.
I never get Christmas presents, but GFM got me Christmas presents, still, I was wishing that my mother and GF were at the table with all of us having conversations with the group.
Do you have a reality check? Am I thinking worng?
She does not read, she loves shopping, she does not work, her mother provides everything ofr her, I work three jobs, my son works several jobs too, he reads a lot, he is very intellectual, she is not. GFM does not work either, her husband left her a house all paid, a pension, how can my son relate to a person who has no idea what insight is, what listening is, what phylosophy is, what sacrifice is, what delay gratification is, what effort is, what a trigger is, what abuse is.
I do not know if I am owried about me or about my son or both. I do not want to be selfish. I want my son to be happy. Is he right that nobody is going to make me happy about girlfriends for him? Am I being unfair? I dont want my son to get mad at me. I love him with all my heart. She seems to love him too. But of she loves hi just as a tool to satisfy her needs my son is going to be very unhappy in the long run. Short time is OK.
I need to pray about this.
