What are you doing Christmas eve and day?
« on: December 24, 2007, 11:32:57 AM »
What are you doing Christmas eve and day?
« on: December 24, 2007, 11:32:57 AM »
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Dear friends, would you mind to share what are you doing fro Christmas?
Hey and Happy Holidays to all, be it Yule, Christmas, Hannukah, etc. We all deserve to celebrate life and loved ones and growth in our lives!
I was going to just start telling all about my Christmas celebrating, but I noticed that some people here are kind of struggling this holiday and I wanted to be very tender in my comments to them, respecting their individual hearts. Blessya all. My comments follow:
LUPITA: I am going to my son's GFM. I have itching about that but I do not have an option. I want to be with my son. He wants to be there and I had that commitment since long time ago. Before I really explored that lady's friendship, wich each day I like less.
How about you? Do you have to be with people you would prefer you did not have to be with? Are you staying alone? By choice? etc?
Good for you, Lupita, spending Christmas with someone you don't "click" with, all in honor of your son. I think that is wonderful and a dear way to sacrifice yourself. The gift of your "time" will mean a lot to him, especially since he knows how hard it is for you to do this.
finding peace: Tomorrow we will go to my in-laws who I love dearly. His father is one of the nicest men I have ever known, and has really taught me what a father is supposed to be.
It is so wonderful that you have such a dear man in your life, as a father-figure. I'm glad you see the preciousness of spending time with him. We just need to treasure the time we have with each other so much.
Izzy: I'm staying alone by choice.
Sometimes our quiet, reflective, or just relaxing times by ourselves can mean so much to us, can't they.
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HOPALONG:
For me, Christmas is a chore. Because my D does not come home, and hasn't for several years, I've gradually (after several years of suffering about it) learned to really detach. I do not have expectations of extra happiness from December 25th, so there is no way I can be disappointed now.
I'm sorry Christmas is very trying on you, but I'm glad that you have a nice buffet you enjoy. Isn't there just something about eating really good food that is one of life's biggest blessings! Since I've been diagnosed with Hashimotos syndrome and have a hard time losing weight, I think on holidays, I'm finally able to eat without feeling guilt or hearing my deceased grandfather's nasty comments about my weight. Food is WONDERFUL! I'm so glad you get some really good eats, Hoppy, along with beauty and music and a little bit of mysticalness.
And now, for what I'm doing C'mas eve and what I did C'mas day, today:
Last night I went to a candlelight service that was really good. Pastor talked about The Grinch, whose heart was 3 sizes too small, complete with overhead scenes from the cartoon movie, and a mini-drama with a guy who was fussing about how rotten Christmas was every year.
Normally, hubby sits in the back and hates the front of church, but when I told his mom he wouldn't come sit with her at the front, she went and got him to come sit up in the front with her and her husband. My husband took two coats on the seats next to him, tossed them over a few seats, and sat down, feeling VERY uncomfortable about being in the front. Finally, the owners of the coats came to claim them, so hubby and 2 daughters got to move to the back where they wanted to be, and youngest daughter sat in front with Gram, Gramps and me. I thought it was funny that my N husband just assumed those coats were Gramp's coats, but they weren't. LOL Then, of course, we all lit candles all over the church and it was so neat.
After that, we went home and watched High School Musical 2 and were gonna play the game with it, but all were too tired. Hubby stayed up cleaning house and the girls and I went to bed.
This morning, at 6:30 AM, we all woke up, dragged poor hubby out of bed (he didn't get to sleep till probably 3 AM), and ate waffles and quiche, opened gifts after my eldest daughter and fiancee got there, and finally watched parade, while poor husband fell back to sleep in his chair.
It is currently almost 1 PM. I have just peeled potatoes, put away my presents, and put dogs out to potty. My mother in law and father in law will be here soon for dinner of turkey, ham, yams, and good stuff, and to exchange gifts.
In a few days, the lady I mentor, will be coming to visit for a while. We will be exchanging gifts as well.
Holidays this year are very nice for me, but in the past, when I lived back in NY where I grew up, my holidays consisted of making sure I kept elbows off table, my husband was dressed right, I paid attention to all the children and what they were doing and that they weren't wrecking Gram's house, being mocked by grandfather for being fat, and basically, going from grandma's to grandma's to foster grandma's to other grandma's, always not being able to wait till I finally hit the last stop and could have a good time, cause that grandma was not paranoid like bio mom and other grandmother was.
I do miss my grandparents (now deceased), but I don't miss the stress I'd feel in the pit of my stomach, that I couldn't ever be thin enough or careful enough. Now, that is all over and gone, and there is just the pleasantries and squeals of delight every year...oh, yeah, those squeals are coming from ME! hehe
Blessya'll my friends and Happy Holidays!
~Laura