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Hermes

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Stereotyping?
« on: January 16, 2008, 06:16:17 AM »
http://www.christianitytoday.com/tcw/1998/janfeb/8w1046.html


An article .

An excerpt:

Walk a mile in his shoes
I now make it a point to imagine situations from a man's viewpoint. This habit was driven home recently when I wound up stuck in a doorway with a coworker. He and I were walking into a building on our way to a meeting when he paused, debating if he should open the door for me. After an awkward shuffle, we ended up sandwiched in the middle. Later he confessed that while he prefers to hold a door for a woman, he fears she may be offended if he does.

Stop the stereotypes
Our expectations are often governed by stereotypes, such as my expectations about my husband's cookie-baking skills. Often our expectations are also influenced by the notion that men and women should be equally good at everything. Based on that theory, today's men are expected to demonstrate a wide range of interpersonal and domestic skills no one would have dreamed of expecting a generation ago. At a neighborhood barbecue, one man mentioned his wife's irritation with him when he washed a good sweater with the bathroom towels. "Didn't your mother ever teach you how to do laundry?" she'd chided. "No," he replied, "I was under the car learning to change the oil with Dad during Mom's laundry lesson!"


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Re: Stereotyping?
« Reply #1 on: January 16, 2008, 07:04:23 AM »
At a neighborhood barbecue, one man mentioned his wife's irritation with him when he washed a good sweater with the bathroom towels. "Didn't your mother ever teach you how to do laundry?" she'd chided. "No," he replied, "I was under the car learning to change the oil with Dad during Mom's laundry lesson!"

With my son, I encouraged him to learn both, which he did, and so, when he left the nest, he was, and is, able to manage his home.

His girlfriend has remarked postively about this, as have others too, to good effect.

My son often remarks that he had super life skills tuition which taught him to stand on his own two feet.

So I must have got something right then!   :)

Leah


PS >   After all, sorting out ones clothes, and other items, into order, picking them up and placing them into the washer, adding some powder/liquid, closing the door and selecting the correct programme number ~ seems quite simple and straightforward.

And, getting an ironing board out and placing the iron onto the garment, at the correct setting (as guided from the label) ~ seems likewise.
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Hermes

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Re: Stereotyping?
« Reply #2 on: January 16, 2008, 07:16:55 AM »
LOL

Well, I am afraid I have not yet learnt to change the oil in my car, and I am not too handy with changing a plug.  Putting in a light bulb is about it!

So, I suppose it works both ways...yes?

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Re: Stereotyping?
« Reply #3 on: January 16, 2008, 07:28:10 AM »

Yes, Hermes,

It does/can work both ways.

I was taught by a male relative, how to maintain my car, which I have done, and still do.

The only thing I struggle with is changing a tyre, for good reason, so I have something in place to do that for me.

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Stereotyping?
« Reply #4 on: January 16, 2008, 07:36:23 AM »
Hello Leah:

You are admirable.  I am afraid were it not for my kind local mechanic I would be lost.  LOL. 

Mind you, having said that, I am not too keen on housework either.  I think in fact that maybe working on my car might prove more interesting. 

I am fortunate to have help who comes to do my house twice a week.  I love to have my home clean and comfortable, but I absolutely hate the process LOL. 

Many young men nowadays do indeed know how to iron, cook, and other household tasks.  I see my young nephews doing so.

My father (the most wonderful father, who died quite some years back, and I so miss him even now) did not know even where the coffee was kept. L.
But that did not detract from him being one of the most extraordinary human beings I have known.

All the best
Hermes