Integrity

[Leah]

Integrity

Integrity means you stick to your personal code of conduct. You stick to what you decide is right and wrong.

When you live with integrity, you succeed. You are open and honest. Your life is uncomplicated and less stressful.

When you have good integrity, you have no reason to lie. You can look at yourself in the mirror. You have nothing to hide.



Benefits of Living with Integrity

>  When you stick to what you know is right or wrong, you don’t regret anything you have done.

>  People follow your example and act more honestly.

>  Your powers of observation are more accurate. You can see the truth about others more easily.

>  No need to keep your stories straight, as your stories are facts.   Therefore, less mental work is required.

>  You handle rejection and criticism more easily.   As you know the other person has the problem.

>  You fight crimes against you with more ferocity, when you have nothing to hide.

>  When you make a mistake, it is easy to accept responsibility, and move forward.

>  You earn the reputation as a person with integrity.

    For example, employees brag about honest bosses. "He might be more honest about your work than you might want to hear, but he’s fair and doesn’t lie."


Integrity with Accountability and Responsibility    =     Wholeness



Authenticity

Authenticity is the degree to which one is true to one's own personality, spirit, or character; despite external forces, influences or pressures.


Being true to oneself,

single minded, and

guarding ones soul.

Leah x

[Bella_French]

Hi Leah,

This one of the reasons i hate trying to conduct relationships with N's, either  as personal relationships or as friends or bosses. They turn such things as integrity and honor against us. If part of your integrity includes being honest and frank, then an N will use that against you to create a one-way flow of informtation that can be used against you.

I hate how my experiences with N's made me stifle my goodness and empathy. I really hoped that love and honor would win over those people , but they became weapons to use aganst me.

I think there is truth to that bible verse, the one that warns that a black ox should never be yolked to a white ox. We white ox's can only be our best around one another.

Thanks so much for the post; it is wonderful

X bella

[teartracks]

Hi Leah,

That's good information.   I don't think there is anything that comes close aa a  substitute for integrity.

tt

[Leah]

Hi Leah,

That's good information.   I don't think there is anything that comes close aa a  substitute for integrity.

tt

Thank you, TT

your encouragement is very much appreciated, and valued.

hope you are able to have a restful weekend,

with some much deserved, pampering, and gentleness.

Love, Leah

[Leah]

Hi Leah,

This one of the reasons i hate trying to conduct relationships with N's, either  as personal relationships or as friends or bosses. They turn such things as integrity and honor against us. If part of your integrity includes being honest and frank, then an N will use that against you to create a one-way flow of informtation that can be used against you.

I hate how my experiences with N's made me stifle my goodness and empathy. I really hoped that love and honor would win over those people , but they became weapons to use aganst me.

I think there is truth to that bible verse, the one that warns that a black ox should never be yolked to a white ox. We white ox's can only be our best around one another.

Thanks so much for the post; it is wonderful

X bella

Thank you, Bella

Sharing as you have done, truly, is greatly valued and so very much appreciated, sharing your life experience, of having had your own integrity and honor turned against you, as a weapon.  It really does cut deeply, I think. 

So very true, that integrity and honor, is what the ' N's ' despise and seek to destroy.  The very words out of my NSister and XNH after they had formed an alliance together, in betrayal of my trust, were just that, horrid words and actions, in pre-planned sabotage of my good name and character, which is now, thankfully, at long last, restored.
 
Personally, my integrity did include being honest and frank, in business/career world, and in personal interactive life with people.  I was loved and respected for being, me, Leah, and popular, which I now realize, was a thorn in their side.   They certainly did use anything they could come up with; jumbled information, and, projective parts of their own life, which was all sewn together, as a weapon to forge against me.  Then followed by their creative one-way flow of information, which was used against me.  All of which, was crazymaking.

How was I to know that they were an item, they were so cunningly clever, as affirmed in 3D life.  I have forgiven them, but could never go back for more.  Not even a crumb of niceness would entice me back into their fold.  No longer naive, what would be my excuse?  Stupid I think.

There must surely be multitudes of people who have suffered the same, my life story is not unique, merely, one of the many many heartbroken lives out there.  Often, their crime is that they were simply, nice.  From the true life accounts read to date.

Grateful thanks,
Love, Leah

[Leah]

Leah,

It's timely that you post this...well, for me, anyway. (I'm posting about this because a few weeks ago you asked about my work at church, and it seems to fit.) We were having a Small Group Ministry meeting at church last week. In our church, there has been a lot of gnashing of teeth about where we are headed. Why aren't we getting new members? Why aren't young families more active? Why do we have so many members who say they *go* to the our church, but feel as if they  don't *belong* to our church.

I said to our pastor (who is new, and very open and receptive, thank God!), "Why would people feel they belonged here if they couldn't be who they were when they walked through the door? When they don't feel as if they can be the same person on Sunday as they are every other day of the week?"

Many will join a small group where they can be themselves and don't feel as if they have to wear their best clothes, their best faces, and be on guard about their "best" behavior. They can be authentic. They can be in a safe place where they can be themselves and not worry about being judged. That's the reason I agreed to serve on this particular ministry team. To me, it's the central issue. Being authentic and having integrity, I believe, is crucial for wholeness and healing and growth. It's crucial to the spiritual life.

I also have to say that it doesn't come without a price. My refusal to compromise my integrity once cost me a job. It is also a source of pain concerning interactions with my FOO. It's a struggle at church, of all places. It's not easy. It also comes with a certain level of discomfort.

I'm just beginning to learn what "tolerating disomfort means."

I hope that made sense.

My refusal to compromise my integrity once cost me a job. It is also a source of pain concerning interactions with my FOO. It's a struggle at church, of all places. It's not easy. It also comes with a certain level of discomfort.

Dear Lollie,

One time, I left a company and soon afterward I was contacted with a lucrative partnership/job offer -- but, it would have meant sacrificing my integrity, as I would have been expected to have taken a huge amount of business away from my previous company.  My answer was no.

The consequence of saying no meant that I was cut-off completely from the network that I had enjoyed being engaged with.

However, I never for one moment regretted my decision; to say no; to material wealth -- and yes; to maintaining my integrity. 

All my work is above board and to the letter.  Life in general, yes, there is great discomfort with integrity. 

Compromise is easier, but not so good for one's heart and soul, one's walk along the pathway ahead.

As you say, "being authentic and having integrity, I believe, is crucial for wholeness and healing and growth. It's crucial to the spiritual life."

Lollie, "Thank You" as that is so very true.



Life is certainly very testing!!!  But, worth the race that is set before us! 

" Hope you and DD have a great weekend "   

Love & Hugs

Leah x