Thank you to Mr Grossman

[onlyrenting]

Dear Mr G..

I have been  reading and responding here for almost 9 mos.
It's a rare read to see your comments about who you are and what your life must be like.
I often wonder what made you want to start this board for people like me to share with other about N.

I wanted to take this time to let you know how much your board has helped me.
I have found a new way of life and understanding with the help from people here.
Almost everyday I read the board with a new understanding if not about my own life about someone else who is needing a little support too.

My story on this board has over 300 pages about how my life has evolved to now.
With the help from the many posters here I was able to safely leave my 28 year marriage.
I now  understand what had happened with the crazyness in my life, never to expect to reconcile my marriage. I knew nothing about Narrsisstic behavior until I came here for help.
How sad for all the lives that this dissoder affects.

How brave I discovered I was to drive 1500 miles with my 12 yr old daughter to TX, leaving my marraige and H in CA. During the time of leaving the relationship was very scary for me.
I had so much support from the many posters here.
Posting daily about how difficult it was becoming and near the end  my life was being threaten.
My H never physically hurt me but I do believe he was desparate for me not to leave and being on medication I had a lot of unknown factors.

I continue to keep my strength from the help I get here. Now Im dealing with the craziness of how N's lie, lie, and lie with divorce and the courts dealing with what and  who to believe. I was able to win temp physical and legal custody from all I have learned here. Hitting hard with all I had expecting how N's operate I needed to play hard ball first, not wait to see if he would play fair.

You maintain this board without saying much about the efforts you take  or how you must take time out of your day.

I wish the best to you and your family and thank you so so much for what you have done to enrich my life.

Thank you for all you do............... OR

[write]

I agree- someone asked me last week what had made a difference in my life and I probably didn't say how much all of the tolerance, advice and just good wishes and support I have received here.

It is a unique forum.

[Healing&Hopeful]

In my short time here, I have been made to feel so welcome and can wholeheartly agree with the above posters.

All the best.

H&H xx

[Chicken]

Oh me too...  I would have most certainly remained in my abusive relationship if it wasn't for the sole use of this forum.   It has saved me from the crazy patterns and drama I imposed on my life to distract me from myself and my real issues. 

Thank you Mr Grossman for providing this site...  and thank you so much to the wonderful, fantastic, beautiful people that use this board.  Your advice, support and insights are invaluable and has helped me in ways you will never imagine. 

[Dr. Richard Grossman]

Hi OR, Write, H & H, and Selkie

Thanks for your comments.  I'm so glad the site and the board have been helpful. 

OR, it was wonderful to hear your story!  You were incredibly brave!

Best wishes,

Richard

[Sela]

I'm late posting but me too.  I have learned so much from this board and do really appreicate it.

Thankyou for this forum Dr. G.

  Sela

[Hopalong]

HI Dr. G,
You may remember I sent you two poems a few months back, in a separate email before I joined the board. They were inadequate to express my thanks, but I do thank you. This is a very powerful act of service, and I wish it were more widely known.

How long does it take you to maintain the site? Hours a week?

I also hope you'll add more essays to the main page when so inspired, since Google brought me there first, and I do get tired of Vaknin hogging all the hits about narcissism. 

Blessings on your balding head,
Hopalong

[Chicken]

In a selfish sort of way...  I'm glad it's not more widely known!  It feels so special, I would hate it to change in anyway.  I keep my use of this forum as a guarded secret...  it's just way too precious.

I know this comes across as being greedy and selfish.   

[Hopalong]

Aha. VERY good point, Selkie.
I hadn't thought of that.

Fuggedaboutit! I take it back!

We don't need to be the WalMart of online support groups!

Hopalong

[Healing&Hopeful]

In a selfish sort of way...  I'm glad it's not more widely known!  It feels so special, I would hate it to change in anyway.  I keep my use of this forum as a guarded secret...  it's just way too precious.

I know this comes across as being greedy and selfish.   

I don't see that as greedy and selfish Selkie hon.... this is something that is precious to you, which is helpful to you.  I feel that it's not greedy and selfish to have something special. xx

[miss piggy]

Hello Dr. G and all,

Yes, thank you so very much, Dr. G, for creating this wonderful haven.  The essays were what popped my eyes wide open.    "I was once blind, but now I see."  And the community here is just so understanding and supportive.  It's very helpful and healing to have a place to come meet other travellers recovering from the damage of narcissism. 

Is "online Lourdes" too much of an exaggeration?  Hey y'all, don't laugh,  , it is a pretty powerful thing happenin' here.  Thanks again!!  Miss Piggy.

[Marta]

Dr. G,

I too want to thank you. This forum has been of ENORMOUS help to me and I have come to like and appreciate the people I have met through this forum. I can also see that you did not just create a website, but poured much thought into it by giving us many features, such as delete option, which really make this a safe place for us to post, even when we are worried about the boogie man, as MP put it, looking over our shoulder for divulging the family secrets.

Thanks again, Marta

[Plucky]

I would like to add my thanks to the many eloquent voices up here already.   This board has saved my sanity.  It has taken away my need to do destructive things.  It has given me friends and a place to talk, whereas in my F&B life I have none.  I've learned things about others and myself.  I hope to be able to make some life-changing decisions soon with the help and support of the many wise people up here.  I feel good when I can provide support to others.  I now have something that is priceless.
Plucky

[Dr. Richard Grossman]

Hi Sela, Hopalong, Selkie, Miss Piggy, Marta, and Plucky,

Thank you for your comments and kind words.  I’m proud of this board—it’s a very special place because it has drawn people like you. 

Hopalong:

Re. your questions:

“How long does it take you to maintain the site? Hours a week?” 

Physically maintaining the board requires little time—until security upgrades become necessary, or someone (a feisty teenager) hacks it, which, thank goodness, has only happened once.  However, I read the board many hours per week (a rough measure: my “logged in time” since the new board was put in place in July is currently: 6 days, 4hours, and 44 minutes…)

"I also hope you'll add more essays to the main page when so inspired"

Thanks.  In what little free time I have, I am currently writing a play.  But once I finish (???) that, I’m sure I’ll go back to writing essays.

Best to all,

Richard

[genuine]

Its like a family here, thanks everyone 

My thanks to you as well Mr Grossman
all the best with your new play!