EMOTIONAL REPRESSION
If you were raised in a family that was uncomfortable and confused about what to do with their emotions, and have not had an opportunity in your adult life to learn about your own emotions, you will have limited skills to assist you with emotional pain.
Some people believe they will be “emotionally well” when they no longer feel anything “negative.”
They have the mistaken belief that reaching the state of health means never feeling scared, angry, or sad.
The truth about thinking and emotional health is that it entails being comfortable with your emotions. To become emotionally well we have to learn to suspend judgment about our feelings as either good or bad, and accept them as simple human responses associated with living in this world in a body.
>> Hence, this valids for me, personally, my thoughts and belief, of living with the Negative and the Positive as a means of a healthy balanced life.
Surely, a healthy balanced life is how one decides to live with BOTH --- side by side, in the dealing with, working with, each aspect, accordingly.
Hence, being an integrated whole person.
Once you learn to not fear your emotions, you become free to experience life.
Because I went through many losses as a child and was raised in a family that could not teach me how to cope with my emotions, I started my adulthood with strong denial and emotional repression.
Subconsciously I believed that releasing my emotions would result in a complete loss of control and disintegration that I would never recover from.
Once I realized I had this fear-based belief, I was able to work through it, allowing myself to admit that I came from a dysfunctional family and to feel the emotions that went along with growing up with a lot of emotional pain.
As a result of opening up my emotional side, I found that my body felt less tense and I was taking more risks in life.
Doing this emotional processing allowed me one of my greatest joys in life, becoming a parent.
Working through our grief and pain as we come to accept our changed bodies puts us in a better position to be available to our daughters and granddaughters as they come into their womanly bodies.
Operating as an Integrated Whole Person
I understand humankind to be spiritual "beings" in physical bodies. We experience human, earthly life through our mind, emotions, and body. When we are using all of our entities we feel integrated and complete.
The order in which we respond to life is as follows:
an event happens, we formulate a thought about the event, an emotional response produces an energy form in the body, and the body reacts by releasing the emotional energy.
We have the capacity to feel four basic emotions: anger, sadness, joy, and fear (mad, sad, glad, and scared).
We have lots of words to describe our feelings, but they can all be traced back to those four basic emotions.
Irritation, annoyance, frustration, or rage are all forms of anger.
Each emotion runs on a continuum from mild to intense.
For example, a little bit of sadness may be called disappointment, whereas intense sadness might be expressed as devastation,
and a little bit of joy might be called feeling pleased, whereas a lot of joy could be called elation.
Searched and found this validating affirming enlightenment.
Truly Grateful.
Leah
