GS - "is not real and I hope that if it is it is not in response to my post."
I stopped beating myself up a long time ago or at least until I came back to this board and got crapped all over by others who take delight in pointing out your faults and mistakes. Not that you were doing that but it hurt to read and I sure felt that way when I posted that.
Hops earlier today was trying to point out to me a possible mistake I made as well as she was pointing out in a passive way a past mistake I made.
One can only take so much.
Lately, I have been working on my reactionary issues and my buttons. I'm aware. Your post felt shaming to me not gentle or compassionate to the layer of pain that I have been working through.
My heart has been in deep rage, indignation and hurt at my mom's betrayal. When that wound is up it tends to color our world. This board is not the best place for me to be.
My chest hurts right now -- it is time for me to leave the board for a while, your post was the final trigger.
Just like someone else said earlier today what triggers us are behavioral reminders of our N parents, nothing more, nothing less.
The pain your post brought up for is much like the pain that my n mom would give me when she would crap all over me for making a mistake.
Outa here~