Step-father died 5 years ago. I got a POSTCARD in the mail from my Nmother telling. Yes! Regardless, I had no idea what my response would be when he died, but, you know what? I LAUGHED hysterically for 10 minutes. In fact, I had to force myself to calm down so I could tell the joyous news to a close friend and one of the only people I have ever told my true childhood story to.
I've been eldercaring my Nmother for the past 3 years due to circumstances. She is old and Alzheimered now, but still I have been able to tie-up many loose ends here emotionally. This has turned out to be a healing venture for me ultimately as all my questions are answered now as to WHY she allowed me to be so abused, why SHE abused me so badly and why she cared so little.
I don't have to question any more. I KNOW THE ANSWERS NOW. It has brought me peace to a previously very painful situation.
