Hi Dinny,
Welcome! Don't INVITE the Nparents to the wedding! You will regret it later, as well as your daughter.
My Nparents ruined my wedding. It's all I think about now when I remember the ceremony. My wedding was their time to shine. I don't even remember being in the limelight at all. Before Ndad walked me down the isle I was trying to talk to him and laugh and have fun. He told me to shut up right now or he would walk out of the church immediately. So it was their time - not mine. At the reception, all the guests were talking to Nparents - they were all relatives and Nmom has stopped me from talking to relatives all my life, telling them and me I was too young to be around them. So H and I stood around talking to each other, a few friends came up to say hi, but since Nmom disallowed any alcohol, they were all ready to leave and go party somewhere. After all, weddings are supposed to be happy and a celebration. Mine was more reminisant of a funeral. I think my friends were embarrassed for me, but didn't know what to say. Afterwards they all told me how wierd and uncomfortable the wedding and ceremony was. They said they had expected quite a party knowing me, but I had let them down.
Lucky for me, H's mother had a reception for us in their home state for their relatives. It was an all-out italian celebration. That is the lovely memories of my wedding.
