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Anna:

--- Quote from: Anna ---Are there different "degrees" of N?  Isn't the most telling sign the part of having no remorse?  I always knew there was a 'problem' (and denied it of course) and even recently have been reluctant to identify my husband as a N because   at the end of every "episode" he will hang his head and apologize.
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I'm very excited to answer my own question here!! LOLOL  This is the first time that I have seen this in print!  

"N spouses, perhaps out of guilt and feelings of specialness, will either give too much of themselves or take too much.  At either end of the spectrum, they may become too authoritarian or too controlling, TOO MEEK or TOO MELLOW........  The therapist might say..."before you felt entitled to everything, but now, because of your guilt, you feel entitled to nothing."

And that sums up my husband!!!!!!!!!!!!  He easily "fits" with so many other N qualities, but this meek & mellow concept puts the missing puzzle piece in to complete the picture.   ahhhh knowledge..... Just wanted to share because it was so significant a find for me.   Hope it helps someone else....

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