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Ami

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Lost Kitten
« on: May 10, 2008, 01:19:03 PM »
Dear Lost Kitten
 I was so glad I was here to respond to your post and say 'Welcome". You fit in here ,perfectly, for better or worse(lol).
  Once you find the name"Narcissism(N), it is the beginning of a horrible reality at least having some"form", rather than just "out of your mind" craziness.
 If you read various member stories, you will see that you are not alone, at all, and you are very welcome to share your heart, pains, hurts, fears etc.
 We are trying to find our voice, which was lost b/c of the type of mother you decribe. There would have been no way you could have grown to love and trust yourself with that type of mother(IME-in my experience)
 Please keep writing. You will find many people who know what you feel and you will not be alone!    Love   Ami


(((((((((Lost Kitten))))))  This is a hug!
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Re: Lost Kitten
« Reply #1 on: May 10, 2008, 02:37:57 PM »
Welcome, Kitten, from another 58 y/o...

I am so sorry for the rejection and vile projection you experienced from your biocontainer.

SO SO smart of you to live far far away.

Now...we need to get the INSIDE of you to detach from her, so that will be far far away too.

One thing I know from being on this board is, you can do that.

When you still feel hooked and hurt and hungry, no. But those hooks can be unbent.

Could I suggest reading any book by Pema Chodron if you haven't already?

Welcome here. It's a good place.

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Re: Lost Kitten
« Reply #2 on: May 10, 2008, 04:47:08 PM »
Welcome(((( Lost Kitten)))),

I just read your story. It saddens me to say this is the perfect place for you to be and heal. Sorry you did not get responded to at another site but maybe it was a blessing in disguise, having you join us would be a great gift for you as well as this board.
Having eachother, knowing we are note alone is priceless. That's how I felt when I found this wonderful board, I am not crazy, or alone anymore.

My Sincere Sympathy for your loss.

With understanding and compassion for your pain. seasons


Lost Kitten thank you for the link of a Narcissistic Mother. A wealth of acknowledgement, thank you. Brought it over here for people to see.
http://www.geocities.com/zpg1957/narcissists

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Ami

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Re: Lost Kitten
« Reply #3 on: May 10, 2008, 05:34:39 PM »
Dear Lost Kitten
 I just read your last posts. My heart broke. You did have an angel.
 My son did commit suicide, a few months ago. I am SO glad you are still here.                  Love    Ami

 
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« Reply #4 on: May 10, 2008, 07:10:47 PM »
Goodness,   :D I didn’t realize that anyone responded to me over on this board. When I put the last reply over there I thought maybe I needed to wait a few days for anyone to respond. (Feeling a little afraid and sad.)

Ami, I am so, sooo sorry about the loss of your son. I lost a (baby) son years ago. Also my fiancé years ago. I know it's not the same. As I pray for my brother's family I will add you to my prayers. I know your heart needs so much comforting. If I had any clue at all, I'd have never brought it up. It just seemed at the moment what I should say first.

Hopalong, "Biocontainer" That's perfect, she's not "mom" to me. And someone my age! I will check out "Pema Chodron" I have not bought any books yet. I didn't know where to begin. I've seen a few on the web, but wanted to read the reviews first. I'm still in a strange whirlwind.

And Seasons, Thank you for the hugs and welcome. You are right, maybe this is where I am supposed to be. Just like maybe I was just supposed to bring up a subject (that I rarely mention) that a lot of people don't really understand at all. But a subject that is part of who I am. A very large part. A secret part of me that wanted out.

Bless you all!

Thank you all for your warm welcome. And much love to you all.
Lost Kitten
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Re: Lost Kitten
« Reply #5 on: May 10, 2008, 07:15:18 PM »
A Warm Welcome to you (((( Lost Kitten ))))

I have read your life story on the members' story board with touched my heart with sadness and understanding.  Also, I have read "Characteristics of Narcissistic Mother" which rings many heartwrenching bells of truth.

I always used to think I was alone in thinking as a child that my mother was not my birth mother and that one day I would be claimed, yet to date, I have read testimonies of many other people who thought the same, yourself included.

I am so glad that you are here among us and I encourage you to write and share, engage, as you feel comfortable, and led to do so.

Take gentle care of you.

Love, Leah
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Re: Lost Kitten
« Reply #6 on: May 10, 2008, 07:37:05 PM »
Dear Lost Kitten
 It is fine to bring it up. I wanted to express the relief that YOU are here!           Love   Ami
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Re: Lost Kitten
« Reply #7 on: May 10, 2008, 10:57:56 PM »
Hi Lost Kitten,

Welcome to the board.  Your going to find understanding here and much compassion.  We all have a connection on this board even if the stories all do not match.  In the end we all have encountered N's and we all know the pain and we all have kept our secrets at one time or another.  So glad I dumped them...and healed. 

I feel at home here.  I can say what I want.  I know they understand here.

Feel free to Rant, Ramble, Scream, Cry, laugh and heal with others here.

 welcome again.

Love
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« Reply #8 on: May 17, 2008, 08:04:12 PM »
Dear Lost Kitten
 I never heard of a group for "survivors" of N not accepting s/one, but their loss is OUR gain. It must have been meant to b, is all I can think(lol) .Thank you for all your kind and thoughtful posts.   Love   Ami
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« Reply #9 on: May 17, 2008, 10:44:24 PM »
((((Ami))))

Ami, you are such a sweetheart. Thank you.

Just being here on this forum has been a blessing for me already. To feel connected to other souls who understand some of what it is like to be me. Even though different things happened in our FOO (familys of origin) many miles apart, I feel we have been brought together. Did you notice that I said WE? I do feel like I belong here. :)

If all of you can just put up with my poor writing skills, and inability to express myself well sometimes. I will do the bast I can.

This is like a family... of understanding. It is a beautiful place.

Blessings to all of you  :)
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« Reply #10 on: May 22, 2008, 06:50:00 PM »
Hi everyone,

I"m visiting you from the local library. I had a computer crash and am in the process of moving so I'll be only able to pop in now and again until I get Internet where moving to. I have not been on here very long at all, yet I feel like I'm going to be a little lost without all of you being just a few clicks away. I'm already missing all of you a lot.

I'll try to pop in on Tuesday when the library opens again.

God willing I'll be back soon.

With love and hugs to you all ((((((all of you)))))

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Leah

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Re: Lost Kitten
« Reply #11 on: May 22, 2008, 07:03:15 PM »

Take gentle care of dear you (((((((( Lostkitten ))))))))))

With remember you in my prayers, that all goes well with the move.

God Bless You.

Love, Leah
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