Author Topic: Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) with a nervous system that is highly sensitive  (Read 5215 times)

Kimberli63

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One in every twenty people is considered to be a highly sensitive person (HSP). This means that either you yourself may be sensitive or someone you know is. 42% of the population is not highly sensitive, meaning that most things don't bother them the way they will an HSP. Everyone else falls somewhere in between, with the odd few being completely unemotional about anything. (By the way - 20% of the entire animal kingdom is highly-sensitive as well).

*Who are HSP's and What Are They Like? *

We're the thinkers, the cautious ones, the conservative people; the ones that say "Hey, wait a minute. Let's think this through before doing something rash."

Every society needs highly sensitive people, just as we need the warriors, the leaders who are ready to take the risks. However, we're the ones that help to temper the not-so-sensitive types, the ones who can be bold, rash and impulsive and may have not thought things through to the consequences of their actions. Highly sensitive people are most often the people found in the roles of advisors, counselors and advocators for restraint.

Unfortunately, in western society, we've also been labeled as somewhat "defective", according the way non-hsp's see us. We're considered "too sensitive, too cautious, too shy, too timid, too introverted, too fearful." What needs to be realized is that these are not "problems" that need to be corrected and fixed with sensitive people. It's the labels that are attached to us that cause the problems. Many non-sensitive people are also shy, timid, introverted and fearful, while there are many highly sensitive people who are out-going, super-friendly, extroverted, and risk-takers. We just tend to think things through first and weigh all the factors that our senses pick up on before forging ahead.

*Traits and Characteristics Misinterpreted*

So, what are some of the traits and characteristics of a highly sensitive person? Let's look at some of the facts and the mythical labels that have been attached to this special group.

*Shyness*

- You'll probably find a larger portion of shy people in the HSP group. That does not mean that everyone is shy. That's a myth. A lot of non-sensitive people are also shy. Sometimes, what's mistaken as shyness is actually a sizing up of the situation and the people that we have just met. We're cautious. If our senses are saying something isn't right about the person, we won't be so open to them. First impressions count. It's not just the way the person is dressed, but their whole demeanor, aura, attitude and other little subtleties that we absorb with all of our senses. We process the thoughts, feelings and sensations that we receive in each new situation. This may make some of us appear "shy", when we're not.

*Introverted*

- Somewhat of a myth. You'll find many HSP's can be extroverted, out-going and fun-loving. You'll also find many non-sensitive people as being introverted. Don't mistake deep-thinking and inner-reflection as introversion. We do require much more alone time. This is because our nervous systems can go into over-load in a situation that a non-sensitive person would find somewhat stimulating. If we become frazzled and over-stimulated, we need to find a quiet spot as soon as possible to settle back down. This is why many HSP's tend to stay at home more often than not, rather than go out to party. It's not that we don't want to... we just know our systems can't handle the overload for too long a time. If we can't get away, we'll pull into ourselves, as a sort of protective shield, to try to reduce the noise, sights, sounds and smells that are bombarding us in order to calm down.

*Fearfulness*

- Unless you're completely unemotional and have a lack of conscious consideration toward others, who can say that they've never been fearful at times? This is not an exclusive trait of sensitive people. New experiences often cause butterflies, fearful thoughts and inner-turmoil in most people. HSP's just tend to feel those emotions more deeply.

*Timidness*

- Caution, careful evaluation of the situation, needing the see the "entire picture", and the possible resulting consequences of our actions is just in our nature. If everyone heedlessly rushed into everything, we'd have even more chaos in our world than we do now.

*Too-Sensitive*

- Yes, this is our major trait. We assimilate everything around us at once. Lights, noises, smells, energy vibrations, they all get absorbed, processed and evaluated. Unfortunately when there's too much activity and noise around us, we can't handle it for a great length of time. For example, what may be a low to moderate level of music for a non-sensitive person could sound like the level of a rock concert to us. Emotionally, we're affected by much of the disharmony in the world. We feel another person's heartache, we are aware of low levels of anger or resentment in a room, we empathize with other people's problems, and feel great sorrow over horrific tragedies.

*What Does All This Mean?*

A highly sensitive person will pick up on subtleties in the surroundings that many non-sensitive people can't see or feel. This can give us some great advantages. It can save us in many situations where there's trouble brewing. Our abilities can keep us from making disastrous business or personal decisions, if we follow our instincts. And because of our deep sense of the environment around us, we're often the ones that make others aware of potential environmental problems that unscrupulous companies ignore for their own benefits. HSP's are often the ones that push for reforms and changes in government law for the better good of everyone.

As with anything, it's good to know that you're not alone, that there are others out there that have to deal with the same types of situations and "labels" as you do. True, it doesn't hurt any less, but you know there are similar types that you can seek out and talk to...and they'll understand. Yes, we do tend to exhibit more of the above traits and characterisitcs than non-sensitive people do, but we're not exclusive owners of them either. Sometimes, it's a misinterpetation of what's really going on in the mind of an HSP by non-HSP's. Only another highly sensitive person could really understand. The good news is that highly sensitive people have been around for as long as man has walked the earth... and we'll always be here, working to make the world a more understanding, considerate and peaceful haven for everyone.

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Kim in Oz

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Dear Kim,
 I am wondering how many people with N parents think they are HSP and are really just traumatized . I think I am not a HSP, just traumatized by an NM. Thanks for the info, Kim.    Love    Ami
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Hey, Kim - I've read the book and found myself in it over and over. The HSP's are so maligned so often by the ones I call "The Unconscious Ones", the ones who live half underwater or half asleep. I actually wonder sometimes if my being an HSP is what saved me from my NPs. What I mean is that I could frequently see it coming - the abuse - plus, I was much more individualistic than either of my brothers. My brothers, neither of whom is/was an HSP, went along with the program and got abused anyway. I struck out on my own, did what I believed in an got slammed for it, but I knew why. They never got it. One killed himself b/c he could not get out from under nor figure out what was going on, and the other is having just as much trouble but is still alive. I think The Unconscious Ones have a much harder time separating themselves from the NPs than the HSPs do - altho we HSPs are far more vulnerable, I think we have the skills to dig out from under more than TUO's do.

That's my take, anyway.

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Kimberli63

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Thanks for the comments Ami, and Towrite. Whilst, I agree with Ami that having a N parent does leave us traumatised, I believe that, as Towrite says, HSP are individuals who can not be, for want of a better word, submerged. As Towrite says her brothers conformed and were abused, while she tried to use sensitivity to keep out of the way. I am highly sensitive to the extent that I get very nervy when I know something is happening and I don't know what it is. For instance, when my best friend of 33 years died, (she didn't want me to know it was the end), I was so restless and drove around aimlessly the whole of the Sunday. I was very uneasy and I didn't know why.Then on the following Wednesday, I was at work and I played the music they played at my father's funeral in 1961 when I was 13. I then played "Time to say Goodbye". I got this urge to check my mobile, and when I turned it on, I got a message from my friend's husband, saying Eva had died on Sunday and he gave the name of the hospital, which by some co-incidence was the area I had trawling around on the Sunday. As I was listening to the message, I realised that the funeral was being held at exactly that time. Even writing this now gives me the cold shivers. When I rang my friend's husband the next day. He told me that they had played "Time to say Goodbye'' at the funeral and that of all the people, Eva knew she didn't want me to see her at the end.

I am feeling like this now and the only explanation for my feelings is I think my friend's sister has died or is dying. It is agonising not knowing what it is that I am picking up.

Kim in Oz

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I think I am a HSP but that my brothers are not.  I think being an HSP actually caused me more pain because I could not let anything flow off my back like a duck, it all went in and stayed.  I think my neediness has to do with what I did not get and is not related to HSP but I have often felt it did.

I have a friend who is an artist and who is clearly HSP.  It has shut down her life as well - even moreso than mine except that sh is extremely neat, obsessively so.  She came froma disfunctional home.  Her mother would spend her last years in an insane asylum.  I think HSPs in dysfunctional, abusive families suffer terribly.  I wonder about HSPs in loving, supportive families.

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I agree, GS, that HSPs suffer more, but we do not suffer in ignorance. My brothers suffered terribly but the had no idea why and were/are unable to get out from under. It kept them suffocated and stunted emotionally. My suffering was real and intense also, but I would not trade my knowing why for their suffocation and stunted emotional growth.

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*Raising hand* HSP here! I have been feeling like one raw nerve ending lately.

I agree about sufferinging very deeply and feeling trauma all the more due to the HSP traits. I also agree that I had more insight than my much less sensitive brother who is very successful in his business life, but emotionally clueless and conformist to this day.