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towrite

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no electricity or gas
« on: April 26, 2008, 12:27:30 PM »
Holy sh*t!!  I just found out my RM is two months behind on her utility bills and the elec/gas may get cut off any minute. She flatly refuses to pay utility bills before her credit card bills.   ?????  This has scared me badly. It threatens my survival, my tenuous security.  I cannot understand her obsession with her credit card bills before the utilities. Does this make sense to anyone???
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debkor

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Re: no electricity or gas
« Reply #1 on: April 26, 2008, 02:59:08 PM »
towrite,

No it has never made sense to me but I do have a friend  who has done that.  She would rather be without electric then not be able to charge. 

She live a life of borrow or take from Peter to pay Paul.  If she was to pay her electric then that is exactly what she would have Lights but to not pay her charges then she would  not be able to shop or pay bills with the card.  So it got so out of control that she eventually lost it all. Card, house, Car all of it. 

When she could have paid her normal bills I seen her come home with really stupid stuff, like things for her porch, lights, even a lighted Palm Tree, now does this make sense? 

The more she had consumed the more secure she felt by stupid things, yet the important things, meant nothing to her. 

Do I get it, No, never did never will.  She still continues to live this way but has found others to pay her bills for her even though she has a job she still continues to buy Needless Things and just figured out a way to keep her pay, her money for those things and everyone else to pay for the real life needs.  You be surprised how many different people she has to do this and they are all men. nor do any of them know each other.  She networks with who she can get supplies and keeps them seperate that they would ever find out. In the last two years she has worked about 6 months total and has it all still. 

This is my N friend.


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Re: no electricity or gas
« Reply #2 on: April 26, 2008, 09:11:00 PM »
What  do you think she wants to accomplish by her actions, towrite?

Does she think you'll pay the bills for her?

Do you think she'll go without utilities, if not?

Is she in the habit of going without services?

It doesn't make sense.... but you could consider paying all the utilities instead of rent to her, perhaps?

Not sure.... sounds like a minefield to live there.

Hope she's just fretting and not seriouse about letting lights go out.

That would really be awful.

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Re: no electricity or gas
« Reply #3 on: April 26, 2008, 09:49:40 PM »
Dear Kate,
 I am so sorry about your situation. What a horrible, unsettling thing, Kate. I am so sorry , friend.She sounds like she does not have good sense, at all.   Love   Ami


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Re: no electricity or gas
« Reply #4 on: April 28, 2008, 01:39:51 PM »





Dear Kate,

So sorry for this threatening scenario with your roommate.

I agree with PR.  I also speculate, that in the current real estateand gas market that there are more potential great roomies who need to make every penny count.  Be careful, but Craigs List in your area may be a place where you can advertise and or check out the advertisments of others.  Again, please be careful.  If you do this, exercise the buddy system.  Take someone with you to interviews.

Wishing you safe and quick resolution to the situation.

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Re: no electricity or gas
« Reply #5 on: April 28, 2008, 05:45:40 PM »

Dear Kate,

I am praying that you find somewhere new, and safe - soon.

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