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Nic:
Hello to you Bunny!

Whenever I hear about "special someones" or "soulmates" or the "true love" I always think the person is unconsciously talking about a yearning for their mother's love. Because among adults, there is realistically more than one potential partner. But we only have one mother. And the infantile bond with the mother is incredibly powerful.

Been through that Bunny..in psychoanalysis..I came out the other end.  That is to say, I no longer yearn for my mother's love, she was smothering et al., drove my father out of his proper place in my life.  I'm pleased to say I honestly like/love him more today than I do my mother.  The fact the b-mom found me has opened up a new area of observation however, which no doubt will lead to new personal perspectives on the topic of gay guys and their mothers.  Food for thought. :)

[/quote]I wouldn't feel espcially confident if someone described me as part of his dream. Dreams are a bit ephemeral. I'd rather be his choice or decision.

So, you're more auditory than visual?  No matter how we've decided to anchor ourselves in our lives, the proof is in the pudding.  It is ultimately a choice and a decision to build a life with someone; in my case and "C's" I would venture to say, our "dreams" or ideals seem to have converged.  The objective being balance as opposed to perfection. Two individuals consciously and authentically contributing 100%/100%.  An engagement and then a commitment.  A risk without a guarantee.  You know what I mean.. :)

Salut,
Nic :wink:

Anonymous:
Hi Nic,


--- Quote from: Nic ---That is to say, I no longer yearn for my mother's love, she was smothering et al., drove my father out of his proper place in my life.
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Re: "special someone/soulmate" oops, I didn't mean an adult's feelings about his/her mother. I'm referring to the infant/child part. This part of us never stops yearning, no matter what the reality is.



--- Quote ---So, you're more auditory than visual?
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I don't know. I would feel uneasy if a man said, "You are what I've been dreaming of." That's why I could understand your difficulty in retaining that he means it. I'm sure he does mean it, but it's not the most convincing thing to hear. Anyway actions speak louder than words which you point out.

bunny

Nic:
Hi Bunny!

Ok, I understand better now. :)

I'm referring to the infant/child part. This part of us never stops yearning, no matter what the reality is.

Yes, yearning and churning! What a schlepp! I'd like my life to be a schleppette for a little while! :shock:  Need some rest ..I thought I needed a rest from thinking but am discovering I need a rest from negative thinking instead...

ps// can't resist trying to impress you with my yiddish, which of course you probably need like a loch im kopf right?!

Nic :lol:  :)

Anonymous:
Hi Nic,

I'm impressed by your Yiddish which you know better than I do.  :lol:  What's "loch im Kopf"? Hole in the head?

bunny

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