Back from New York-immediate fight

[Overcomer]

Well we had a good time in New York/New Jersey.  My mom and I had no fight while there.  It was fine - just fine.  I have to say I am amazed.  Also, I invited my mom to take Jazzercise with me and she was taken aback by the invitation but is going to do it with me.  BUT................

I got home and my h and I were ok until he started drinking.  Then he came upstairs and we argued and talked of divorce.  I knew he would change his tune this morning and he did.  I told him all our troubles paled in comparison to his drinking and if he stopped, we could probably get past our differences.  He just got home so more later...........

[lighter]

Wow..... sorry you're having such a hard time with your husband's drinking.

Ei yei yei.... not an easy problem to solve.

Let us know what's gone on since you talked again.

Lighter

ps... glad you and your mum seem to be getting along.

[Overcomer]

Well I hate to admit it but we ate at Planet Hollywood in Time Square.  The kids wanted to but I would have preferred Sushi and Samba or somewhere like that.  I love the city too and want to go sometime without mom.  We are doing ok-he apologised for being stressed and irrational-but it is only a matter of time before he is drunk again.

[teartracks]

OC

So glad you got a break and that you had fun.  Every glance in NYC provides a new experience for those of us who only get to go occasionally.

I've never had to live with a drunk, so I can't do much of anything but tell you that I hope your husband quits.  He is the only one who can do it.

tt

   

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He is an alcoholic.  He cannot do something about it until he admits he has a problem.  He will not admit it.  The problem is he immediately changes personalities.  He goes from a moody guy to a mean guy.  I really am getting past him.  My love for him is diminishing every time he gets drunk.

[Overcomer]

I told him his alcoholism is the elephant in the room that no one talks about.  He rants and raves about how he does not have a say in the home.  I told him he will never get a say until he is sober.  How in the world can I respect his opinions when they are most often clouded by irrational drunkenness>>

[Izzy_*now*]

I'm with you, OC

That's exactly what happened with my first partner.

It was a slow demise every time he got drunk. when it reached every-day-after-work drunk, all communication shut down; it was just DD and me.
My brother came for a (pre-planned) week of hunting and partner had but 2 beer in 5 days: brother leaves: partner was then drunk before His family arrived for the weekend.

Monday morning I said he" had to leave. His things were packed".

xx
Izzy

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I know what you mean Iz.  He told me on Friday that he was only going to drink of Fridays.  He said enough is enough and that once a week should suffice.

So my daughter and I got in the car and drove to Omaha for her to get a tatoo.  They will not allow you to get one in Iowa at 17.   So we drove over (2 hours)  tatoo (two hours) drive back (two hours.)  Got home and guess what?  Yes, my husband was drinking.

I said to him.  Why are you drinking?  You said you were only going to drink on Fridays and he said because he felt like it.