For Ami

[Lupita]

I dedicate this thread to Ami because Ami is always asking questions about how to love one self.

I never answered you Ami because I did not know either. But now, I am reading a book about that and I want to share with you and the wonderful people in the board.

1- Develop a hobby, something you enjoy doing, I want to learn hoe to dance hip hop and brake dance.

2- Do something that nurtures you in which you were most deprived. I walk on the beach and flirt a lot. I love it.

3- Make a list of your emotional bruises. As you go through this exercise try to picture your self as a loving parent who is consoling a hurt little child. Then say to your self, "It is OK, I will protect you and keep you from harm" You can do it with a picture of your self on your hands.

4- Tell your seld, these things that hurt you have made you a better person. Iamgine that you are in a disaster, who do you want to be with, with a little princess that has never endured any pain or with a person who made it through the dessert? You are a stronger person thanks to everything you have suffered in the past and you cant protect your self. You do not need anybody to protect you.

5-The better you can parent your self now as an adult the less yuo will continues to feel hurt for what you did not get as a child.


More to come.

[Lupita]

This will keep you from behaving childishly by turning your boss, coworker, firend, boyfriend, etc, in to your mother or father, or any of the players of your yooth.

When I say you, I do not mean You Ami, I mean you everybody who has this problem like I do, and I would better use the word "one self" instead of you but I do not want to correct that now. I will do it later.

[Ami]

Thank You, Lupita for thinking of me with this topic. I think I am making progress by trying to really face the truth of what was and to feel the deep feelings buried within.
 I hope you are making progress, too.
   Blessings ,Ami
 

[Lupita]

Thank you Ami, two steps forward, two steps back and one in the same place.

I gues I am getting some progress.

God bless!