Hi Shame Slayer! It's interesting, when my ex sent me away, a friend of mine which is into meditation tried to find out if it was my baby by means of her methods of relaxation and dreams. In the end she saw everything correctly. She said that the baby was mine, had very black hair (at the time I didn't notice the importance of this information, since most babies have almost no hair), that she saw we looking into each other eyes and that we had a special connection.
I hope she becomes a daddy's girl, but with responsability, I am really worried about helping her understand about limits and consequences, things her mother can't grasp. On the other hand, I am committed to help her build her self-steem. I am buying all books about fathers-daughters, there are good ones, I found out.
Thank you!
Hi Ami! Yes, I found some pictures of my childhood, they all closed the case. Like her mother joked, I can't run, there is no way to deny (and, of course, I took the DNA test the very first day). One picture is extremely funny, I have a very messy hair in the picture. But oddly enough it looks exactly like her hair. I got very worried when I thought she might be like me, I thought she might suffer a lot. But I intend to be there to help her understand her limitations and her strengths. As to my mother, right now I am very suspicious of everything my mother says, because she is drooling almost as much as I am, so she is very subjective.
Thank you, Debkor! I really consider her a blessing. God was very generous. Even after confirming that she is my child, it is difficult to me to accept that I took part in the making of something so beautiful.
Hi again Ami! Sorry I took so long to answer. I have been there a lot, yesterday until 3:00am. I love to be at her side, helping with what's possible for a cumbersome man. But I have managed to calm her down a few times and many things I didn't think I would be capable of.
News...I have been trying to avoid the N theme, but it is always there. Today I couldn't control myself and criticized her for the strange behaviour she has with her brother. It's something disgusting, that I know her ex-boyfriend complained of as well... I regret criticizing her, because no matter what she is never wrong and everybody else is wrong. There is no use. So I just want to be near my baby till I can have scheduled visits and I don't need ever again to see my ex. She also said it was absurd that I wanted to take a DNA exam. Well, among MANY other things, after we found out she was pregnant, she sent me away and reestablished contact with her "ex" (one of her lovers, of 8 years), while pregnant. I managed to find proof about that, some e-mails that she forgot in a draft box. So, no, I don't have any reasons to take a DNA exam...
Hugs!!!
