Thanks tt,
You said it too!
It's about the best we can ask for and then we might find new hurdles easier to jump. I doubt I will ever say "I have arrived" but I have this sister nailed into a discussion that will determine something, and I did sense defensiveness in her last. I have written again, admitting my faulty thinking, and I think that is difficult for her to do. She mentions only her corrected thinking, but I didn't point that out.
As well, she thinks she is the sister who wanted the spouse present at a family meeting I asked for of only the 5 sibs. All I said was that one was not agreeable unless her husband came, so the meeting didnt take place. She isn't the one. I was the eldest one, but this one's feeling 'guilty?' makes me think that maybe she does count on him for support and protection at family gatherings.
I will never know.
TTYL
xx
Izzy