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mattiedread:
My mother is an N, both my siblings exibit N behavior and have always been enablers of my mother. My mother had three main 'suppliers' (those who she belittles, berates, blames etc.):
Me, 75%
My father, 15%
Her sister (my aunt) 10%.

She has been a liar all her life (according to those who have known her long before I was born, certainly she has been a brazen liar since I have known her).

My question is what does an N do when her suppliers run dry? Both my aunt and father are dead and I don't have any contact with my mother (after my father died, I became 90% of her supply, she would confabulate outrageous stories that weren't vaguely believable and my siblings would encourage this behavior).

Many of her friends are now ex-friends (apparently she started playing her games with them, again, encouraged by my siblings. The one friend I know who still has contact with her has limitted her contact).

I've always felt she behaved the way she does because of a need to do so. She feels better about herself when she belittles others, or is a 'victem'. But now, her social contact is extemely limitted to a handful of people, most of whom have encouraged her behavior (she rewards my brother and sister financially when they validate her behavior and they have always exploited that).

I knew 25 years ago that I would be disinhereted once my father died (and, I was). Her (actually their) behavior is quite predictable.

Again, I feel they behave because of some sick need to do so, but, what happens when their primary suppliers are gone??

Discounted Girl:
I think that they find little drinks and scraps of food here and there, perhaps their twisted minds are able to imagine they are feeding and that's really all they need. I personally don't think they ever run out of food, unless they are down to zero contact with others (that includes not having a dog, cat or goldfish). Even then I would suspect they imagine a relationship with a tv character or someone in a book. These people are lunatics. And, if they truly have noone, no thing to chew on, then I think they just shrivel up and die, much like a rat will do if imprisoned without food.

mattiedread:
She definately confabulates stories related to things she has read or seen on TV. She envies victems and makes elaborate stories that sometimes take months to play out so that she looks as if she is the exact same victem. All the while, berating the author or the TV series.

Anonymous:
They usually find new suppliers.

bunny

Jenocidal:
mattie:

Your mother sounds a lot like my mother.  My sociopth nmother is asocial, so she doesn't feel the need to leave her house and interact with the World or the people in it.  She gets her groceries ordered and purchased by men in other towns whom she meets on the internet.  She is quite content to just sit in her bachelore suite with her lap dog and "intellectualize" her life away.  She shares a tiny mattress on her livingroom floor with my 18 yr old brother (can we say dysfunction??)..  She used to beat the shit out of me until I charged her with assualt at the age of 16, and she could potentially go to jail.  That's when the 16 yrs of physical abuse stopped, but never the emotional/psyhological abuse - that's here forever!  That's why I decided to remove the sociopath from my life.

Your mother will find other forms of NS.  Even if it's just a dog.

Watching my nmother and her lapdog interact is quite a sight to see.  That dog is the reincarnation of my mother (if you can believe that!)  And my mother feeds off that.

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