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kaylebsmommy702

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Im Back!!
« on: January 30, 2009, 10:13:38 PM »
Ok so for those of u dont know me, u can search under my user name for my prior posts on my Custody Evaluation with an N.... So heres what happened- We went through the full BS evalustion, I totally complied- Of course the N didnot. The evaluator set up 4 appointments and he flaked on every single one... SURPRISE!!!! The judge ruled that I can permanently live with my son and mother, stepfather, and younger brother. In August we lost my step dad to bladder cancer  :( .... But as far as the custody situation... the N had visitation on the 2nd weekend (N drove to pick him up here on sat. and I had to pick up on Sunday.) Oh I also forgot to mention that about 2 weeks before court there was a report made by an anonomys person to child protective services that the N came home drunk, the "fiancee" called off the engagement and he choked her out after he threw her on the table and she kicked him... Dont give this guy a gun cause he will shoot himself in the foot everytime!!! So long story short there was a restraining order put on his then fiancee for my son. She cant be within 100 yards of him!

Anyways the visitation took place about 3 times, and everytime i asked what my son did, he replied with what he did and " she was only there for 5 minutes". Well as a parent I know when my child is being coached to say something... After I finally got the truth out of him (gently) I told his father there would be no visitation until further notice. Im done! I will not allow my son to be manipulated by a huge N!!! Father or not... BTW I had my son tested and he has ADHD/ Bipolar... He is now on the correct meds and is exceling in school, and we have been N free for about 8 months now... N didnt even call on my sons b-day- oh but wait he called on his so that our son could wish HIM a happy birthday... I myself have gone through a vocational school and am graduating in 6 days!! This has been a long time coming but I see the light at the end of the tunnel!!!!

Oh and incase u were wondering- yes I will be taking him back to court here in my state to get full custody very soon. And possibly supervised visitation since the N's "fiancee" is now his "wife"... I hope this empowers everyone reading this in some way... Thank u all for your support over the what almost 3 years this has been going on? Thanks! :lol: :D :)

lighter

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Re: Im Back!!
« Reply #1 on: February 01, 2009, 01:52:12 PM »
Congratulations KM!

You've come so far...... Kaleb's as safe as you can make him.

You're a good mama.  Thank God you had the perserverence and resources to see it through..... let us know how the next round goes. 

(Surely the court has to take notice of that violated restraining order?  Please report every incident to the police, that's how it's documented.)
 
Sorry to hear about your loss (((KM)))

Take care,

M2


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Re: Im Back!!
« Reply #2 on: February 03, 2009, 10:43:31 AM »
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N didnt even call on my sons b-day- oh but wait he called on his so that our son could wish HIM a happy birthday...


Doesn't that just tell it all?

I say again these creeps' Achilles heel is court. They just can't survive there. It should never be the first course but when it's the only one left we should never be afraid of it because if we can outlast them we win.
Congratulations on being N-free KM702.

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