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sKePTiKal

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Re: Deja Vu
« Reply #15 on: August 06, 2009, 11:03:57 AM »
Kelly - for now, you just take care of you and get your strength back. There is healing in your "alternate universe"...

and know that all a "door" is... is simply the place where is wall is NOT. We can make doors, where we need them. Might need some tools, sure. You'll for sure need the strength to wield the tools. But you've got those. It's just not time for that yet... and by the time it IS time... other things will probably happen... and the walls might even be different by then... you might see better places for a door then, than you do now... or the walls might be just rice paper panels.

Hope you feel better soon, hon...
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« Reply #16 on: August 07, 2009, 07:47:37 AM »
Thinking of you, Kelly.
How are you?           XXXOOO    Ami
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« Reply #17 on: August 07, 2009, 10:31:29 AM »
My mom and I had a talk.  As long as I have cancer I think she will back off.  I hate to say this but my cancer is a "Get out of mom jail free card."

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« Reply #18 on: August 07, 2009, 11:44:21 AM »
That is definite black humor, Kelly!  You are so cute.         Ami
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« Reply #19 on: August 18, 2009, 07:28:35 PM »
So I have been out of work for quite sometime.  My mom is weasling her way back in.  The store manager asked me if I felt up to coming in today.  I did.  I think this will be my good week until Friday when i start round 2 of chemo.

So I talked to this gal at work who is going through a divorce.  My mom called her into the office.  The gal told me that she was sure my mom was trying really hard to care but when she left she did not feel one bit of empathy from my mom.  Ns don't show empathy, do they??


Then we talked about the staff meeting she held.  The gal told me it was so disjointed.....they all felt very perplexed after it.  I asked her if it seemed alzheimery?  The gal said......that is it!!  It was like she started to talk about something and never really finished the thought.

The manager says she prances around the store......making sure everyone knows she is there.  It is weird///
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« Reply #20 on: August 18, 2009, 09:14:31 PM »
Dear (((Kelly))))
 The NM is an enigma to us b/c we are always hoping they will be OK(at least I was). I guess what they show is what they are.
  It makes sense in some kind of universe of their own but we have to bear the damage as their D's.
  It is hard, Kelly.
  I got away in my 20's but took my M with me 24/7 so might as well have been there.
  I may be making no sense. Just wanted to send you a thought and a hug!    Love   Ami
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« Reply #21 on: August 26, 2009, 10:14:12 AM »
I am doing ok.  I lost all my hair and am going to get a wig this morning.  My hair fell out in huge clumps and it is very distressing!!!  My daughter shaved my head...

My mom called me the other day and I seriously could not believe it.  Her record skips a beat........she always goes back to the samo samo........why can't she move forward?  Is it an age thing?  Do people just automatically get stuck when they get old.  Do they repeat familiar patterns.......or is she getting alzheimers?  She is like a broken record.....I cannot stand it!
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« Reply #22 on: August 26, 2009, 10:27:02 AM »
Perhaps it is some form of mental dementia.  Your observations are keen.  You will know.  Is some aspect of her behavior new or different?

Thinking of you.  Hope you get a gorgeous wig that suits you so well you will want to wear it when your hair returns.
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« Reply #23 on: August 26, 2009, 11:14:14 AM »
What was your M doing, Kelly? Sorry about your hair.That must be really really hard ((((Kelly))))          Ami
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Re: Deja Vu
« Reply #24 on: August 26, 2009, 02:15:46 PM »
Hi Kel,

Glad to hear a word from you. I know it must be a really tough transition, when the hair goes.
It might almost be easier if it all came out at once, but chemo patients go through that one-clump-at-a-time thing...

Are you feeling fairly well, considering?

I'm wondering if there's any way you can emotionally insulate yourself from the triggers with your mother. It just seems terrible for you to to be so upset over THAT so much of the time.

You have plenty on your plate already. I wish you could find a way to detach, see her as from a great distance, so that her usual and customary and unchanging behaviors that normally make you so upset and angry, won't be triggering you.

Cancer's enough!

love,
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Re: Deja Vu
« Reply #25 on: August 26, 2009, 06:15:24 PM »
hi OC

I was thinking of you earlier and there was a new post from you. It's too bad (for everyone in chemo) that the hair falls out. I hope you find a good wig. A friend of mine was provided 3-4 different ones when she lost her hair.

Are you sick? nauseous? tired? (I don't  know all the side effects, but I hope you have as few a none besides the hair.

Love
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