My mom kicked us kids out of the house one Christmas morning throwing all the presents outside on to the lawn and street. We were all in tears just going through the rest of the day hoping it would be over soon. My dad, who at this time was divorced from my mom came to get us.Unbelievable. Actually, it's not unbelievable considering how sick the N's are. I am so sorry this happened to you Gabben. *sigh****
Christmas was always so weird for me and my brother as well. My dad tried so hard to please my mom at christmas and she alway snubbed his gifts saying they were ugly or dumb. One time I went Christmas shopping with my dad and he picked out a really nice outfit for my mom, he spend hours trying to put an outfit together for her and he would bounce ideas off me and we had so much fun. This was the 70's so he picked out a really nice pair of polyester slacks, a head scarf, a fluffy blouse and a polyester blazer in navy blue...I'll never forget it, it was really cute with big buttons. I was so excited for my mom to open that present to see her reaction. I think all kids get really excited to see their parents open gifts too. Well, you guessed it, my Nmother opened it and grimaced. She had this fake smile on her face. After my dad had left the room for something, she told me that it was cheap looking and my dad was an idiot for picking that out, etc.
I was really hurt. I was hurt for my dad. I don't really watch Dr. Phil but one time he had parent abusers on his show and I watched it. Dr. Phil said that when one parent insults the other parent, in any way shape or form, in the presence of their own children, it changes that child forever. The parent is actually insulting their child's DNA. That child can not help his/her DNA so when the parent denigrates one, they denigrate all. This almost always leads to self-esteem issues later in life.
I just found that interesting and IMHO, true!
Bear
