Dear Lupita
I bought quite a few books on male/female relationships b/c I was brought up by a Boob
and needed to learn simple things that people with good mothers learn.
They have helped me SOOO much with all people, not just men.
There are certain "laws" to human relationships like scientific laws like gravity.
Maybe(just maybe) with the last guy, you seemed like you had too many issues. Men don't want to learn about all our issues at the beginning. They want to feel like we will be fun to be with.
Later , both men and woman share issue type of stuff.
Anyway, the books talk about all these things.
You are right that self esteem and self respect is really the sexiest thing.
A confident man or woman is a sexy man or woman.
I am learning that the BAD was bullshit. It is coming off slowly cuz I had to take it on for survival as a member of my family.
Another thing that helps me is friendships with woman who have good self esteem, just talk to them and watch them and see how they view themselves.
Ami
PS How we have hated ourselves is a really sick, distortion!
