Is It Harder For You To Get Closer To Men Or Woman?

[Ami]

 Some woman expressed how hard it was to understand men. I have the opposite feeling.  Maybe our difficulty with one sex is a result of our FOO(family or origin) patterns.
 My M  threw me the biggest curve ball. My F was good to me, although he never stood up. He was the same ,day to day. He did not rage one minute, squish with love the next, reject the next, pull too close the next,hate the next etc.
 My M made me hold my sanity tightly  to myself like my last piece of clothing  
 I trust men  more than woman. I have male friends in a relatively easy way but female friends hurt my soul. I have a female friend I LOVE now but it is hard for me to be close to a woman. I go step by step even though my body wants to run, shout, go in a corner:all the emotions I had as a kid.
 They replay with females in a way they don't with males.
 I thought it would be interesting to hear the viewpoints of other friends ,on here!                xxoo  Ami

[Sealynx]

I very much agree Ami. I easily befriend men and most of my closest friends have always been men. Women are much harder to get to know. I think one problem is that the level of intimacy that women quickly engage in with each other feels too much like the "emotional traps" my mother would use with me. She would be all sweet and smiling to gain my loyalty and make me feel close to her and then I'd see that it had only been an act or ploy. There was in fact nothing there. I've also had quite a few N women as "friends" in the past who have used me. Men seem to be more what you see is what you get, at least the ones I choose to be around are. I can pretty much tell you what they will do next.

[binks]

I don't have problems making friends with either sex, but this thread got me thinking about my female friends. All my female friends have close relationships with their mothers. (Their mothers are/were lovely people) I know this is a coincidence, but I have always both admired and envied them for it.

Not really the correct emotional response as I now know, but understandable I think.

[BonesMS]

It's hard for me to get close enough to even TRUST men or women because of being abused by both the NWomb-Donor and her favorite pedophile.

Bones

[Ami]

You know, Bones, I was thinking of this when I wrote the thread. I trust men in a basic way cuz of my F.If I had a bad F, I could trust no one.
 I am so sorry you had that awful male and female dose of terror.((((((Bones)))))))))   You are a hero to be such a good and decent person after all that, Bones!                          Ami

[BonesMS]

You know, Bones, I was thinking of this when I wrote the thread. I trust men in a basic way cuz of my F.If I had a bad F, I could trust no one.
 I am so sorry you had that awful male and female dose of terror.((((((Bones)))))))))   You are a hero to be such a good and decent person after all that, Bones!                          Ami

Thanks, (((((((Ami))))))))).

[HeartofPilgrimage]

I'm just now able to make good female friends. I do have longstanding female friends, but I always had this uneasy feeling that I was going to start bothering them or something. I have never had female friends that I could call at a moment's notice or tell everything to. Generally I made better friends with men, which means after you or they get married that there is a barrier there.